lovnlost Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 My dear friend.....her and I are both going through really tough breakups with what we thought were the right people to last in our life. Well....today her sister killed herself and left behind a young girl. And its only been 2 weeks since the loss of her lover in her and her childs life. Now her sister. She has close support from girlfriends as well. I live a bit aways. But we have been talking alot and leaning on each other through this and have deepend our bond more as friends. What can I say or do for her? I told her that I love her and how incredibly sorry I was. That I didnt understand either. I also said that she needs to guard her heart. Her mind and emotions are going to take her places....but guard your heart. I know of nothing else I can say or do for her. We had plans to drink bourbon and play guitar together next weekend and now.....now I dont know that that will work. Maybe just the guitar. She promised me she will never do this to me or anyone of her other friends. I know there is truly nothing I CAN do or SAY to appease the feelings she is going through. If your reading this....can you pray for her? Please....she has been through so much in her life already and does not deserve this...not on the eve of her birthday. Not when she made a pact to be positive and live life to the fullest again in her 30's. Please.....
Flavia Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Yes, you have my prayers. About 20 years ago, my best friend was murdered, and my boyfriend dumped me at her memorial service... Said I was too needy... Those two things put me on a path of change in my life that I can say all the good things I have now started there. But it was a lot of very hard work, especially that first year. And that first year was awful. I hope she also can find every good thing possible out of this rough time. A book that helped me was "A Gift of Hope: How We Survive Our Tragedies" by Robert Veninga ...
cerridwen Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Prayers sent, Flavia. Best to you and I am sorry for your friend's suffering.
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