minorsecond Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 This is kind of a wall of text... Ok, so my roommates and I hosted a party last night. There was a girl (let's call her Sarah) who I found attractive looking. I began talking to her and discovered that she is a vocal performance major who loves jazz. I'm a jazz trumpet player at my university and so I was instantly intrigued. I have a thing for fellow musicians. Anyhow, we were flirting a lot (mostly due to the alcohol, I suppose), and really hitting it off well. I told her to Facebook me, and she told me that she couldn't do it from her phone and that I should, so I did. Then I told her that it was nice meeting her and went to talk to other people. A friend of mine who was attending the party told me that he was going to play "wingman" for me and find out if she's interested. I know that this was a bad idea, but I didn't care at the moment. He came back and told me that when he asked her what she thinks of me, she said that she thought I was gay. He told me that he explained to her that I'm not. So, later in the evening Sarah's friend and and my friend went into my room for a few minutes. My friend came out and motioned for Sarah to come into my room, and they all came out a few minutes later. I asked my friend what that was about, and he explained this: "Ok, the deal is this.. Sarah's friend is interested in Matt. However, another guy (Eric) is interested in Sarah's friend. Sarah's friend asked Sarah to keep Eric busy so that Sarah's friend can have more time alone with Matt. Sarah just doesn't have time to talk right now, but she knows that you aren't gay." I meant to talk to Sarah once more before she left my apartment, but I didn't get a chance to. She accepted my friend request today, but I haven't talked to her at all. So, what do you think I should do from this point?
welikeincrowds Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Send her this facebook message: "Hey babe, omg you were soOoOo adorable last night! Let's go shopping on Saturday! Oh and after we can see Eat Pray Love omg I've been dying to, OR we can skip that and go straight to the dancing (and the appletinis) -- BUT no guys though, I mean it!!! Really I just wanna dance!!!! xoxo" Report back here with what she says
mogul Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Too much he said she said. Wingmans are great if its a trusted friend and more than one girl in a group at a club/bar. Not in your situation. If you were vibing with her, you should of continued to convo and flirt a bit more and cause tension to the point theres a kiss. As for now, best thing you can do is disregard what your friend said. Don't let it affect you and how this plays out. Send her a fb message, It was nice meeting you at the party, how was your weekend? You seem like a cool girl and I'd like to get to know you better... whats your number? Continue from there..
PratyekaYana Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 So, what do you think I should do from this point? Out of morbid curiosity, I'd say try to contact her again so that you might gauge where you stand with this fellow musician. She may have invested just enough interest in you to set the foundation for something to blossom between you two. However, I will offer this word of caution: the fact that she initially pegged you as gay will almost certainly influence whatever romantic prospect she sees in you. It may very well be a perception from which you won't recover. Good luck.
Author minorsecond Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Yeah I suppose you're correct. I'll just send her a short Facebook message tomorrow or Tuesday seeing if she wants to get together sometime.
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