covergirl1977 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 So long story short, I dated a guy for only a month...although intense....it was a month. I was shocked at the fact that he was back with his ex and because of how it went down and how he told me. I tried talking to him initially for the first few days through text and obviously didn't help me. Did I kill my chances of him contacting because I didn't initiate the NC immediately...understandably I was pissed and wanted to talk right? It's now been a week and a half or so since my last attempt a several days after I found out
Thatguyintx Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 It's never too late for NC. Your motivation for NC is off though. You need to go NC to get your sanity back, not get your ex back. Not easy to hear, I know. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
Author covergirl1977 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 It's never too late for NC. Your motivation for NC is off though. You need to go NC to get your sanity back, not get your ex back. Not easy to hear, I know. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. OH I KNOW, I KNOW!! Maybe its too fresh and its still seems important to hear from him but its more of a momentary need for some kind of remorse than a belief that we have any sort of future. I wouldn't put myself in a situation at this point with him EVER again. I would NEVER trust him. I just think at the moment it would me nice to know that he atleast has thought of what a d-bag move he pulled or how he pulled it. Hopefully....if and when....I won't even care.
Simone84 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I agree, it's never too late to start no contact - but it's so necessary in your case. The sooner you do it the better. Because my impression is that this guy will be back, and the quicker you start no contact, the quicker he'll actually come back. Especially because he's gone back to an ex-girlfriend - if it didn't work then, it probably ain't gonna work this time... And guess who he'll try hitting up again once that happens! Especially if he stops hearing from you from this moment on. You say you were together for an "intense" month... This guarantees even more that he'll be back at one point, because the intense types also happen to thrive on drama. My guess is he's back with his ex now, the same crap will become an issue between them, there'll be a scene and he'll try coming back to you. Just be cautious about the 'intense' types, they're almost always in it for the thrill of the ride/chase rather than a lasting relationship. Start no contact immediately, and then do let us know a couple of months from now how he tried to get another chance with you!
depplover_1980 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 If he does come back from his ex, yo-yoing back to yourself, I would deeply consider whether it's a wise move accepting as he cannot be trusted for stability. BUT if excitement and fast sex is your thing, then go ahead (I empathise!)...
lovnlost Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 It's never too late for NC. Your motivation for NC is off though. You need to go NC to get your sanity back, not get your ex back. Not easy to hear, I know. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. You got the shirt??? So not fair. What did it say? At least you left with SOMETHING!
Movingthrough Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 It's never too late for NC. Your motivation for NC is off though. You need to go NC to get your sanity back, not get your ex back. Not easy to hear, I know. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. +1 You can always do NC, just mentally prepare yourself for it. At this point you can still save your self and sanity by just thinking well this is going nowhere and move on. Obviously if they can jump back and forth like that, then you dont want it.
ReturnToSender Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 You got the shirt??? So not fair. What did it say? At least you left with SOMETHING! I literally when I read this hehe
Beeotch Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 NC doesn't affect someone wanting to speak to you or not. If they want to, they will and if not they won't.
IanIan Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 NC doesn't affect someone wanting to speak to you or not. If they want to, they will and if not they won't. Surely someone going NC on you is going to make you think twice about contacting them? You're going to be worried about being ignored or possibly receiving a restraining order.
Thatguyintx Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 You got the shirt??? So not fair. What did it say? At least you left with SOMETHING! It said "I'm with stupid" and had an arrow pointing to myself.
lovnlost Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 It said "I'm with stupid" and had an arrow pointing to myself. Well...hopefully it wasn't pointing in the downward direction.
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