Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Im half black and white by the way caramel color moms white. Anyway My college has 3,600 students 80% is white and there are literally only like 50 black students many of which are international students. I like white girls mostly but will date sisters however the few ther are, are taken. I am really popular (and a little above average in the looks department) but don't feel desired at all. I did date a girl at the beginning of the year who was white and drop dead gorgeous but we only dated for 2 months and she dumped me back in November and is dating a white guy now. 65% of the school is female! and yet my game is sucking. I don't know I feel black men are not very desired in the dating pool even before all of this. Also I go to a christian lutheran school if that matters.
alethean Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 It's probably the school you are attending. Where I go black men are in demand! I understand your sense of alienation though.
Author Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 It's probably the school you are attending. Where I go black men are in demand! I understand your sense of alienation though. Yeah do you go to a public school? I thought about going to University of Washington. Right now I am in a private christian school.
Duckduckgoose Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 There are a lot of black men where I am attending nursing classes. All sorts of skin tones. Girls don't really like them much and I can see why. About 80% of them act like ****ing idiots. They are disrespectful and loud, demanding, and obnoxious. TBH though, the white guys are not any better. They try to act like hard asses. Its not that these fellows are not attractive, most of them are... they just act like fools. So if you're a good looking guy, work on your approach with women and your manners. If you come off as a wannabe thug she's going to run. If you are loud and disrespectful the only girl you might attract are the crazy ones.
Author Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 There are a lot of black men where I am attending nursing classes. All sorts of skin tones. Girls don't really like them much and I can see why. About 80% of them act like ****ing idiots. They are disrespectful and loud, demanding, and obnoxious. TBH though, the white guys are not any better. They try to act like hard asses. Its not that these fellows are not attractive, most of them are... they just act like fools. So if you're a good looking guy, work on your approach with women and your manners. If you come off as a wannabe thug she's going to run. If you are loud and disrespectful the only girl you might attract are the crazy ones. I am definately not a thug or wannabe thug. I am described as the whitest black guy ever despite the fact that I am half white. I tried dating a few girls but was unsuccesful at getting dates.
alethean Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Yeah do you go to a public school? I thought about going to University of Washington. Right now I am in a private christian school. Yes, I go to a public school. I couldn't go to a private school. I needed the diversity after going to a high school that had maybe 10 black kids out of a 550 graduating class. In that high school no one liked to think outside the box. Dating was basically not an option...which is why I feel your pain.
Duckduckgoose Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I am definately not a thug or wannabe thug. I am described as the whitest black guy ever despite the fact that I am half white. I tried dating a few girls but was unsuccesful at getting dates. Well some of them could be racist, as far as dating goes. Not all white or black girls will date a mixed guy. Dunno why not most of them are hot. Try not to stress it too much, if you have a good game and are attractive the girls you should be dating will come around your way just be friendly to lots of girls, but do your best not to look like a player. There was this guy I used to work with that I so would have dated if I wasn't married at the time. Dunno where he is now, can't find him on FB or anything... he was a very classy black man about 3 years older than me... good looking, manners.. damn I wish he would magically show up sometime!
Author Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Yes, I go to a public school. I couldn't go to a private school. I needed the diversity after going to a high school that had maybe 10 black kids out of a 550 graduating class. In that high school no one liked to think outside the box. Dating was basically not an option...which is why I feel your pain. Yeah there is little diversity everyone is nice cool though. However I don't feel many white girls at my school would consider dating a black guy.
Author Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Well some of them could be racist, as far as dating goes. Not all white or black girls will date a mixed guy. Dunno why not most of them are hot. Try not to stress it too much, if you have a good game and are attractive the girls you should be dating will come around your way just be friendly to lots of girls, but do your best not to look like a player. There was this guy I used to work with that I so would have dated if I wasn't married at the time. Dunno where he is now, can't find him on FB or anything... he was a very classy black man about 3 years older than me... good looking, manners.. damn I wish he would magically show up sometime! I am definately not looked at as a player. Alot of people say I am the sweetest guy ever and any girl would be lucky to have me. But yeah I see what your're saying.
angielove Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm white and I LOVE black guys. I've only had the pleasure of dating one though (there aren't many black people in my city!). I am definately not a thug or wannabe thug. I am described as the whitest black guy ever despite the fact that I am half white. I tried dating a few girls but was unsuccesful at getting dates. Haha! That made me laugh. The black guy I dated said I was the whitest white girl he's ever met
Author Mixed28 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 I'm white and I LOVE black guys. I've only had the pleasure of dating one though (there aren't many black people in my city!). Haha! That made me laugh. The black guy I dated said I was the whitest white girl he's ever met Do you live in Portland? lol
elaina Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Yeah there is little diversity everyone is nice cool though. However I don't feel many white girls at my school would consider dating a black guy. It's hard to know. It really depends on the individual. Since you are going to a private Christian school though, many of the students are not into just dating around... most students who voluntarily go to a Christian university are not looking for dates... they're concentrating on their career and for girls, many are looking for their soulmate. So, it really depends on each female's desire for who she'd like to marry and if race is a factor. For many girls, they do want to marry a person of their own ethnicity and background, but there are also girls who do not consider ethnicity to be a factor whatsoever. (The man I'm interested in is not of my ethnicity, and is downright awesome!) So the question is, what do you want in dating? If there's a girl that you are interested in, it'd be good to talk with her a lot and see where her heart is... what is it she wants and if it matches up with what you want. For many people who go to Christian universities, they have specific goals they want to achieve, and though there are some who tend to date around like students in public universities, most who voluntarily go to Christian universities have specific guidelines they follow for everything, including dating.
Author Mixed28 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 It's hard to know. It really depends on the individual. Since you are going to a private Christian school though, many of the students are not into just dating around... most students who voluntarily go to a Christian university are not looking for dates... they're concentrating on their career and for girls, many are looking for their soulmate. So, it really depends on each female's desire for who she'd like to marry and if race is a factor. For many girls, they do want to marry a person of their own ethnicity and background, but there are also girls who do not consider ethnicity to be a factor whatsoever. (The man I'm interested in is not of my ethnicity, and is downright awesome!) So the question is, what do you want in dating? If there's a girl that you are interested in, it'd be good to talk with her a lot and see where her heart is... what is it she wants and if it matches up with what you want. For many people who go to Christian universities, they have specific goals they want to achieve, and though there are some who tend to date around like students in public universities, most who voluntarily go to Christian universities have specific guidelines they follow for everything, including dating. Yeah you basically described me. I have guidlines and hope to find a life partner in college. But yeah completely agree.
elaina Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Yeah you basically described me. I have guidlines and hope to find a life partner in college. But yeah completely agree. Cool Hopefully you'll find a wonderful, beautiful lady!!! Are you involved in different activities that are co-ed? Like maybe volunteering in nonprofit organizations with other students? Or going to games or things like that? Also, feel free to welcome new female students, cause many freshmen who come into college are wanting to make new friends, are not at the moment in relationships, and many freshmen girls would love to meet you, and don't worry about dating... hopefully the girl of your dreams will come into your life and it will just naturally happen... that does happen, you know! It is a beautiful, lovely experience when relationships just naturally grow, and so romantic too. Just be busy yet meet new people and study hard and enjoy life till that happens and she appears!
musemaj11 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 (edited) Women in general are more 'racist' when it comes to physical attraction. Men on the other hand will go for anyone we find beautiful. However I think its worth to mention both white men and women tend to be considered desirable by all races. Sometimes I wish I were white. Edited March 8, 2011 by musemaj11
elaina Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 (edited) Women in general are more 'racist' when it comes to physical attraction. Men on the other hand will go for anyone we find beautiful. However I think its worth to mention both white men and women tend to be considered desirable by all races. Sometimes I wish I were white. Nah don't wish that!!! Be proud of who you are!!! White does not equal wonderful or desirable, and it's really sad that anybody would wish to be white just because they consider their own skin color to be unattractive. There are girls who are gorgeous, yet they try to whiten their skin, while white girls try to get tan in tanning salons or lying out in the sun. Most white girls don't want to be white... they want to be tan. Also, white guys who are not tan tend to get made fun of for their pasty color (at least, from what I've seen.) So, it's human nature I guess to want to be different than how one is. Just...be proud of your skin!!! Don't wish it to be another color, cause every color is beautiful!!! Be proud and confident of you, and don't be down on your skin color, cause it is not inferior to any other skin color, and it is wonderful, same as all other skin colors. Edited March 8, 2011 by elaina
musemaj11 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Nah don't wish that!!! Be proud of who you are!!! White does not equal wonderful or desirable, and it's really sad that anybody would wish to be white just because they consider their own skin color to be unattractive. There are girls who are gorgeous, yet they try to whiten their skin, while white girls try to get tan in tanning salons or lying out in the sun. Most white girls don't want to be white... they want to be tan. Also, white guys who are not tan tend to get made fun of for their pasty color (at least, from what I've seen.) So, it's human nature I guess to want to be different than how one is. Just...be proud of your skin!!! Don't wish it to be another color, cause every color is beautiful!!! Be proud and confident of you, and don't be down on your skin color, cause it is not inferior to any other skin color, and it is wonderful, same as all other skin colors. I wanna be in the middle then. Not too white and not too dark. Lol
Author Mixed28 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 I wanna be in the middle then. Not too white and not too dark. Lol Are you black? You want to be half white?
OliveOyl Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I'm not mixed... I'm simply vanilla African-American (pun intended ). BUT I felt compelled to respond because when I was younger and dating in my 20s, I was worried because I'd been raised in a white community and there weren't too many blacks (they called us "black" back then) in my neighborhood or community. Plus I had that weird situation of not really identifying culturally with the very very few blacks who were around. I dated mostly white guys and while perhaps maybe it affected my choices, it really wasn't an issue for me. I ended up getting happily married and although that marriage is now over, race had absolutely nothing to do with its demise. You sound like a cool guy, I wouldn't worry about it. The less you worry about it, the less others will too. Interracial dating is much more accepted than it was say, twenty years ago. Being biracial is so common now and being in the NW is a plus for that. (I see sooo many gorgeous biracial little kids running around here...)
Author Mixed28 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 I'm not mixed... I'm simply vanilla African-American (pun intended ). BUT I felt compelled to respond because when I was younger and dating in my 20s, I was worried because I'd been raised in a white community and there weren't too many blacks (they called us "black" back then) in my neighborhood or community. Plus I had that weird situation of not really identifying culturally with the very very few blacks who were around. I dated mostly white guys and while perhaps maybe it affected my choices, it really wasn't an issue for me. I ended up getting happily married and although that marriage is now over, race had absolutely nothing to do with its demise. You sound like a cool guy, I wouldn't worry about it. The less you worry about it, the less others will too. Interracial dating is much more accepted than it was say, twenty years ago. Being biracial is so common now and being in the NW is a plus for that. (I see sooo many gorgeous biracial little kids running around here...) How did you know I live in the North West?
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Im half black and white by the way caramel color moms white. Anyway My college has 3,600 students 80% is white and there are literally only like 50 black students many of which are international students. I like white girls mostly but will date sisters however the few ther are, are taken. I am really popular (and a little above average in the looks department) but don't feel desired at all. I did date a girl at the beginning of the year who was white and drop dead gorgeous but we only dated for 2 months and she dumped me back in November and is dating a white guy now. 65% of the school is female! and yet my game is sucking. I don't know I feel black men are not very desired in the dating pool even before all of this. Also I go to a christian lutheran school if that matters. Uh... It does! I think I know that school and I can tell you for sure what you are feeling is probably true. I had a friend that switched to UW and was really happy with that change for the same reason as you. I personally think it's because of the high school students from the surrounding area.
Author Mixed28 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 Uh... It does! I think I know that school and I can tell you for sure what you are feeling is probably true. I had a friend that switched to UW and was really happy with that change for the same reason as you. I personally think it's because of the high school students from the surrounding area. LOL You are thinking of the correct school. Did he switch to UW Seattle? I have been putting a little bit of thought into it. What exactly did your friend not like also what race was he?
OliveOyl Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 How did you know I live in the North West? Do you live in Portland? lol I thought about going to University of Washington. Educated guess?
seekandfind Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 (edited) I am definately not looked at as a player. Alot of people say I am the sweetest guy ever and any girl would be lucky to have me. But yeah I see what your're saying. Being sweet is good and all, but be careful. Girls like confidence and assertiveness. Befriend her and gain her trust (can be done in an hour or less depending on the scenario) like you would with any normal human being, and then immediately make your intentions clear. Naturally if possible And I would agree that your school makes it slightly harder, but don't use that as a crutch. Your life is what you make of it! Go for it dude. Rejection is a sign that you aren't playing it safe, so go get rejected! Edited March 8, 2011 by seekandfind
angielove Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Do you live in Portland? lol Hahaha unfortunately not. I live in Australia!!!
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