DLFresh Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 My girlfriend and I were together for almost 3 years and lived together for about a year and a half. She broke up with me about a month ago...saying that she loved me but I was not the right guy for her and we were having a lot of communication problems...which is true...and to be honest, i made a lot of mistakes by drinking a bit too much (not abusive towards her or anything), not being very open, and not being engaged enough in our relationship. Well, i moved out and we have had minimal contact since today, other than myself responding to some emails of her asking me how I was doing...she asked me out to lunch and I accepted. (on a side note, since I left, i have been working out everyday, eating healthy, not drinking, doing a lot of self evaluation on how i contributed to the decay of our relationship) - anyways, the lunch was light and fun...neither of us brought up the relationship, just chatted on how we were doing, etc. Anyways, she said she wanted to see my new apartment at some time (she is still in our old house) - anyways, when I was leaving, I was saying goodbye to our dog that we got together, and she started getting really emotional and I gave her a hug and she wouldn't let go...I really feel that their is still love between us, I think we just hit a wall and I needed to grow up and understand what her real needs are (communication, connection, etc) - Do you think we could reconcile at some point based on this information? Should I just take it that she is said it is ending? Any advice on how to approach this would be greatly appreciated, I want her (and my dog) back!
aerialgirl Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hi DL. I think these are all good signs but be careful not to appear too eager or she may go cold. It's hard to tell exactly what's going on just yet but the fact that she wanted to have lunch and visit your place means she wants to see you. Let her set the pace but don't be too available! YouR situation sounds similar to mine. About 1 month past breakup with my ex, 4 yrs together, we lived together and got a dog, which has stayed with him because I moved out. It's terrible how much I miss the dog! I have been strict NC and have had no contact from him at all which I'm finding super difficult. I wish you all the best. Stay cool and keep us posted!
Author DLFresh Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 I think you are right Arielgirl, and thank you for the update! i am just trying to determine if she just feels guitly, wants to be friends, or that there may still be feelings there....i will keep you posted and thank you again Anyone else want to chime in?
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