wjg23g Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hey LS, I ran into this girl two weeks ago that I had been introduced to before. We got along well in brief convo, and when I asked her to have lunch, she told me about the work she had to do & said next week would be better. I got in touch a few later & asked about getting together. She said her sister was in town & that she'd check her schedule, so I said let's just try for something next week. Got no response to that message. Today, I messaged her & suggested we attend an event in the city, as it'd be a bit more exciting than lunch. She said she needs a rain check for this week & that things have been a mess since her break up & she needs a little time. I told her no problem & i hope things work out. What'ya think LS? I didn't know she had a BF/recent break up; I guess she gave me her number somewhere around that time. She seems nice; I'm not looking for anything serious, wouldn't mind being a rebound. Should I contact her again? Wait how long? Or just see if she gets in touch with me. I guess I've asked her either 2 or 3 times now to do stuff & she's postponed/cancelled.
Author wjg23g Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 ...? I'll probably run into her next week. I could tell her to get in touch when she's sorted things out?
tman666 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I personally think that getting involved with a girl shortly after a breakup on her end (or your end, for that matter) isn't a very good idea.. Aside from that, however, it doesn't seem like she's overly interested in you. A girl who is interested will most likely be fairly prompt about returning your attempts at communication. I would personally tone down the whole "big dates" ideas. She's probably not lying to you by saying that she needs more time to unwind... I would try getting together with her for smaller events, such as bringing her coffee, or making her dinner, etc. Make it as convenient for her as possible at this point. If she's still not reciprocating to that, then I'd move on...
iJester Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Back off. At this point, your only real play is to have her wonder why you stopped contacting her.
Author wjg23g Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 OK- I guess I'll just see if she contacts me & be friendly if I see her out.
Author wjg23g Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 Hello LS. Update. I've seen this girl a couple times since. She's been very friendly both times. First time just briefly in passing, but yesterday I stopped and we talked for 5-10 minutes. She seemed pretty happy. Her recent breakup came up- she seemed fine about it. Said she moved out but is still paying rent but that it's for the best in the long run. At the end of the convo, I told her I understand break ups suck but that she seemed like an interesting person that I'd like to get to know better (something to that effect) and I asked her out again. She sounded positive/sort of excited when said we can go out, after she finishes up this paper she's working on (due Friday). I said ok, sounds good, and that was that. Later that day, as we had been talking about which courses to take, I sent her a message recommending a course and she replied thanks & she was going to take it. So, being I didn't propose a date or other, do I have to contact her again? Even though I've initiated several times, I doubt she'll be texting me to set something up. What's next LS?
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