horizzon Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 (edited) I'll try to make this as short and sweet, but provide all the necessary details. My ex fiance and i got broken up. I shoved him away after the break upby making him believe while i was intoxicated i got with others. 2 days after the break up i asked if i should just start dating this other kid Dylan. I gave him a time limit to decide his feelings because i couldn't put up with hope anymore. Valentines day we spoke on the phone he told me that we just drag each other down, he was going to see a movie with someone i don't know on a date. And that he wasn't in love with me anymore. He added right after that in a hot tone saying that i've been hooking up with others so what's the point. That i have been dating others as well right when him and i broke up. So why does it matter to me? i kept telling him i didn't but he wouldn't hear it and tried to hang up not wanting to talk. I then admitted and came clean that i cheated on him during the first month. BUT i told him when we first started dating we could see others when he was out of town since at the time it was long distance.HE AGREED TO THIS SO ITS NOT REALLY CHEATING. Well, i guess this changed for him because his feelings developed quicker then mine. After i admitted the truth he sent me the usual angry messages one does after this. And won't speak to me again. It's been nearly a month. He said he will never talk to me again. About a week or so later i get a call concerning a job about him. I gave good recommendations and everything. So i texted him to let him know and i got no response. -end- BTW i know i acted very immaturely. But we all have those life learning experiences. This was mine. His best friend he hangs out with wants to hang out with me all the time. She knows about the 'cheating' and claims it wasn't. Since he agreed we could see others. And i did. She, and his other friends thinks he will talk to me. They all say he is just acting really immaturely about it. My best friend talks to my ex as well. I don't know what to really hope for, is having my best friend and his friends still talking and hanging out with me going to help my situation at all with him at least speaking to me again? + given the circumstances how long will it take you to come out and talk? My best friend is hanging out with him not this Monday, but the next. So March 14th. She wants to bring me up, but i really don't know what to expect. I'm planning for the worse but everyone keeps saying that 14 months is not that easy to let go. Even for him. She wants to clear up the falsehoods he usually makes up in these situations. My other friend believes that he may think he could be better off because i was stressing him out more than what he could take. He owes money for rent, is in debt to his family, and i was supporting him. His car was also breaking down. She thinks that with time once he gets everything settled that hopefully by the 14th he will be more grounded and calmed down. The most to expect though out of that little lunch is him talking to me again. I don't want to be with him right now, i want to be friends. Mainly just text and see if we can build a new foundation and try again. Edited March 7, 2011 by horizzon
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