whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Can I ask why you are cheating on your wife? And, why when your OW tried to end things with you, you wouldn't respect her wishes and let her go? Do you see how unfair this is to both women? You get the both of worlds. Oh crap, I think I just answered my own question to you.. Just know that one day your wife will find out and you'll have to face her and the fallout, the consquences and you could lose everything.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 My vote: motel. In front of it in a very public area, right out in the open. Might as well not hide your bull**** because it is going to come out and bite you in the ass anyways.
Mountain Dew Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks! Why dont you do her on the corner you picked her up on? 1
dbtmarley Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Man, I ain't had sex in the car since I was 23. Wish I could get my wife in on the idea... Oh, who am I kidding? I can barely get into the backseat to buckle our 3 year old in her carseat; I doubt I'll find proper leverage back there helpful in pleasuring my wife.
2sure Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Since she is happy with the car why change it? Not many women would be content with this so... Also, you mention you dont want to "set a precedent" of getting a room...as if once she has had sex with you in a room she may no longer be content with the car...so. If you want to give her a treat because she is being so accomodating, why not take her to dinner then have sex in the car? 1
pureinheart Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks! Never spend money on an OW if you don't have to. Then get out the cheapest way possible. Finding creative places to f*ck is part of the fun. If we can't find anywhere and she can't provide a place, then she does me in the parking garage. If she isn't down with that, then she just misses out. What do you guys think of Lorena Bobbitt...OW can do that also:D 1
carrie999 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Ask the OW Forum. They have more experience with backseat romance than the betrayed spouses here do. Tagline for this forum: Infidelity In an affair or suspect your significant other? Share your experiences and concerns here. Tagline for the OM/OW forum: The Other Man / Woman The other side of the story: Support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner. If you want to adhere strictly to these guidelines, why are you posting in the OM/OW forum? Betrayed spouses AND those who are married and unfaithful are welcome to post there, just as OM/OW can post here, even though it's not explicitly stated. Regardless of this, and whatever the intention the OP had by starting this thread (incendiary or even "trolling" or not), technically this is the correct forum, since he is in an affair.
carrie999 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 This forum is to support people who are coping with the emotional devastation an affair can cause, either by participating in an affair or being the betrayed spouse. It's not a how to cheat site. If you read any of the threads here before you posted, you would have known this, so I doubt that you are really surprised by the responses you received. That being said, my advice to you would be to divorce your wife and run away with your OW. You two sound like a match made in heaven. You have no honor or integrity and your OW doesn't appear to have any self esteem, self respect or even any expectation of being treated like a human. An entire relationship carried out by rutting in the back seat of a car? I predict you two will have a great future together. Your wife probably doesn't spend her free time boinking married men in the backseat. You should set her free to find someone with some standards. And yes...I agree that the real purpose of this forum is to provide support for those in emotional turmoil due to an affair. Well said.
Jonah Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Aww man, c'mon dude.... I always thought cheaters never cared what others thought, you're severely disappointing me right now. You certainly have the right vibe for this thread Mr. Marley! :lmao:
Author bobfisher Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 I appreciate the responses. I understand the reactions because, obviously, I'm in the wrong place. i have no advice, just wanted to say i don't think the infidelity forum is where you should have posted this. it is very insensitive to the people who frequent this forum who are healing from being cheated on. You're right, I apologize to everyone. And yes...I agree that the real purpose of this forum is to provide support for those in emotional turmoil due to an affair. Well said. This affirms I'm in the wrong place. I get that now. Aww man, c'mon dude.... I always thought cheaters never cared what others thought, you're severely disappointing me right now. I'd have to be a sociopath not to care about intentionally hurting others. See debate here:Are most cheaters sociopaths? Can I ask why you are cheating on your wife? And, why when your OW tried to end things with you, you wouldn't respect her wishes and let her go? Do you see how unfair this is to both women? You get the both of worlds. Oh crap, I think I just answered my own question to you.. Just know that one day your wife will find out and you'll have to face her and the fallout, the consquences and you could lose everything. Would my answer change anyone's reaction? Probably not because I think people ask this type of question to find the answer to their own, "Why did he/she cheat on me?" And I couldn't possibly answer that question. Also, you're right, I am very selfish. Still, in my few posts I've been very candid on these forums including my other post about convincing the OW to stay. That was a truthful attempt to answer the question on that thread. I don't pretend to be moral, and I have no illusions that my behavior is justifiable, but when I enter these forums as a (relatively) anonymous person I desire to find a place away from the rest of the world where I can engage in helpful dialog despite disagreements with my lifestyle. Bob... this area of LS is not quite so much a discussion board as it is a sounding/venting board I'll remember this.
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