bobfisher Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks!
WorldIsYours Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks! What you should do is tell your wife you've been cheating instead of looking for a room to have sex with this "unmarried woman."
heartbrokeninohio Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 what you should be doing is rethinking what you are doing and how much hurt this is going to bring you wife when she finds out and she will. we have good instincts and something just starts nagging at us and it gets worse until we start snooping. You best be prepared for what happened to mine...he was told get have a nice warm cup of gfys and has been tossed out of my life what your doing is wrong selfish and self centered and unfair to the person who your cheating on. If your not happy why not get a divorce and move on instead of hurting her like this
dbtmarley Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 It really depends if you like to do oral on her. I like oral with a passion and the backseat doesn't cut it, you can actually break an ankle this way. Anyways... I would take her to the cheapest motel in town. If you see any of those hourly ones grab a couple of cans of flea spray and you'll be fine. If the springs are coming through the mattress just double up the blanket and throw a bath towel or two underneath it. Don't fret, it's her back not yours.. just watch your knees if you must do doggy style or anything of the sorts. If you don't like oral stick to the backseat or better yet take her to one of those parks with a little league baseball diamond on it. The pitcher's mound has this elavation thingy going on that allows for some adequate gription (is that a word?) during needed times. I hope this helps. 1
NoIDidn't Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks! Ask her to pay for it. Tell her, it so your W won't find out and that you will reimburse her when you can with cash. Whether you do or not, is up to you. 1
dbtmarley Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Ask her to pay for it. Tell her, it so your W won't find out and that you will reimburse her when you can with cash. Whether you do or not, is up to you. You are like a chestmaster, properly thinking out the next move to avoid getting caught, all while attacking the prize. If I was you I would teach her the hotel bathtub trick!
bentnotbroken Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I would beg to differ you aren't cheap, otherwise you would move get a divorce before shagging in the back seat. The old saying is it is cheaper to keep her.
Tayla Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hey bobf- Didnt you write this portion earlier? I find it extremely hypocritical,maybe you can start living by your words. Only honesty can earn trust. If that doesn't work, no other words/actions will ever be enough.
NamNam Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hey *********, What you should be doing is telling your wife that you're cheating. Where you should be banging this broad is in the gutter where your sewer rat ass belongs.
Woman In Blue Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I smell troll bait too, but I'll play. Well Mr. Fisher, you've got yourself quite the classy gal there - she's willing to rut in the backseat of your marital vehicle. Damn, that's pretty hot. If she's single, why doesn't she just have you over to HER place - unless she still lives at home? I wouldn't waste my marital money on a $150 hotel room just to bang some dumbass bimbo whose too stupid to know any better. 1
rowell2024 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I already notified that this is a troll thread with no other purpose than to incite flames from BSs here. This is probably a sock puppet from someone from one of the other forums. I wonder who?
PegNosePete Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 You might as well go for the expensive hotel dude. When your wife finds out she is going to divorce you and take everything you own. So you might as well spend it while you can.
Author bobfisher Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Whoa, what a welcome. Certainly I expected some sarcasm, witty mocking, and perhaps dissent. But to be lambasted in such a way on my first post, just wow. I double checked the LS Terminology to make sure I wasn't a troll. I didn't mean to be intentionality rude or shocking. I honestly thought this forum was for advice about this stuff. I even read this from the pinned thread in infidelity: This particular forum is focused on discussing the problems and experiences of those who are in relationships with cheating partners, or who are themselves cheating on their partners. It is certainly appropriate for others who are not in such a situation to offer their insight to posters here; however, it is only appropriate if it's done in a respectful and helpful manner. "Respectful and helpful" does not mean that you must condone or encourage a poster. It does not mean that you must agree with the poster. Respect is the key. Nevertheless, I do respect the feelings of those of you who strongly disagree with my behavior. From your responses I hear that you have been hurt, and it was not my intention to re-open any wounds. It appears this is the wrong forums for me, I apologize. I'll try to find somewhere else.
Jonah Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Whoa, what a welcome. What? You knew you were going to get slammed! I am not buying your back-seat story as if you had funds for the motel you would not have hesitated or needed advice. My best answer for you is to search on the internet for a "how to get laid" forum.
WTFBBQ Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I'm a MM having an A with a unmarried woman. We're both in our 20's. So far, it's all been the backseat of the car, but I'd like to actually take her to a hotel. I have a good job, I'm not cheap, and I'd would be willing to take her to a nice hotel, say, $100 to $150 range. But should I being staying in nice hotels, or in cheaper motels? The reason I ask is two-fold, 1) I don't want to set a precedent that she expects a posh location each time, 2) that's a lot of money over time and cheap or not I don't want to be wasteful if a motel is fine anyway. She's never complained about the car, and I would guess that she wouldn't care either way. And the fact that she probably doesn't care makes me want to take her to a nice hotel even more. Am I over-thinking this? Also, is it okay to to ask her which she prefers, or should I just make the decision? Thanks!Ask the OW Forum. They have more experience with backseat romance than the betrayed spouses here do. 1
BB07 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Ummm I wonder if bobfisher and blogwatcher aren't one and the same?
alexandria35 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 This forum is to support people who are coping with the emotional devastation an affair can cause, either by participating in an affair or being the betrayed spouse. It's not a how to cheat site. If you read any of the threads here before you posted, you would have known this, so I doubt that you are really surprised by the responses you received. That being said, my advice to you would be to divorce your wife and run away with your OW. You two sound like a match made in heaven. You have no honor or integrity and your OW doesn't appear to have any self esteem, self respect or even any expectation of being treated like a human. An entire relationship carried out by rutting in the back seat of a car? I predict you two will have a great future together. Your wife probably doesn't spend her free time boinking married men in the backseat. You should set her free to find someone with some standards. 1
dbtmarley Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Whoa, what a welcome. Certainly I expected some sarcasm, witty mocking, and perhaps dissent. But to be lambasted in such a way on my first post, just wow. I double checked the LS Terminology to make sure I wasn't a troll. I didn't mean to be intentionality rude or shocking. I honestly thought this forum was for advice about this stuff. I even read this from the pinned thread in infidelity: Nevertheless, I do respect the feelings of those of you who strongly disagree with my behavior. From your responses I hear that you have been hurt, and it was not my intention to re-open any wounds. It appears this is the wrong forums for me, I apologize. I'll try to find somewhere else. Aww man, c'mon dude.... I always thought cheaters never cared what others thought, you're severely disappointing me right now.
StoneCold Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Bob... this area of LS is not quite so much a discussion board as it is a sounding/venting board
Linda9999 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 The fact that people like the OP exist (whether this one's a troll or not) is why I am so very very sad lately. To think that so many millions of people have their lives devastated by infidelity is so depressing. And to think that statistically, two of my three children will experience this devastation.
bentnotbroken Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 The fact that people like the OP exist (whether this one's a troll or not) is why I am so very very sad lately. To think that so many millions of people have their lives devastated by infidelity is so depressing. And to think that statistically, two of my three children will experience this devastation. I have to admit, this is one of the things that bothers me the most. With so many people out there not caring what their actions are doing to others...makes me wonder which one of them, or if both of them will deal with this mess again at some point in their lives:sick:
justsam Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Are you ****ing serious? This has to be a joke, right? What a clown.
summerdowling87 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 1 Take her to a hotel that's coast alot of money 2. Stop cheating and take you wife to diffrent hotels & motels if she doesn't find out bout your cheating and leaves you
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