heartbeats4u Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 So, my SO and I have been going out for several months now and I am happy as can be, but here is the situation. She said she doesn't want to go past kissing because she feels self conscious about her body. I have told her numerous times that I think her body is perfect ( cause I do) but she says she feels uncomfortable with the way she looks and she wants to look better for me. The only problem is that she is in college so she's not really making the best food choices to combat her problem. Then when I visited her and asked id she wanted to workout with me in the gym, she turned it down. I don't know what to do. It seems like this problem will never fix itself and it saddens me that she thinks this way
romantic911 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Obviously she doesn't want to go to the gym with you as she is too self-conscious as to how she thinks she looks - same problem. Try another approach - more subtle - like going for a walk - if she then starts to huff and puff then subtly mention the need to get fit and watch the diet - provided you feel that she is ready for "advice". Another approach is to take her out for dinner and you choose salads and lean meat for yourself - let her order what she wants - and if she selects fatty food then it becomes obvious whose diet is better. Very indirect but it may work. It comes from the old maxim: always refer to other's mistakes indirectly.
Author heartbeats4u Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 The problem is that she is aware of the unhealthy eating. However there aren't many substitutions, and she is accustomed to eating this way.
MommyofThree Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Overall, she needs to build the self confidence on her own. She might not only feel timid about her appearance but she might just not be ready to go all the way. For now and until she's ready, just continue to be intimate in other ways like cuddling and take some romantic walks. They say walking is sometimes better than vigorous excercise. Hold her hand while you walk together so that its more romantic. Plan a picnic and bring along healthy stuff like fruits n veggies. Whisper in her ear that she's beautiful just the way she is. Compliment her all the time, let her know over and over again that she's the prettiest in your eyes. If my man would tell me my body is perfect, I wouldn't believe it because it really isn't. It's the way he caresses me and holds me that makes me feel like a model
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