lovnlost Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 (edited) When my ex and I broke up she gave me some words that were completely out of left field compared to where we were at emotionally and physically. Instead of pleading with her, or crying, or asking why o why I began to tell her how proud of her I was in our relationship. That she and I had come to so far in learning true, great, qualities of a relationship like proper communication and how to talk to one another like a partner. Honesty and truth. Vulnerability. All of those things that should be learned and used in a great relationship. When blind sided by her words I said I was proud of her. I hardly ancknowledged them as I knew they were wrong and so different from anything she had ever said before or thought. We saw each other not two weeks prior and said I love you each night up until then....even after this talk....and the next before we went NC. I dont know why I said that but it felt right in me to do or say. The next day before NC was tougher as there were questions...but this was my initial response. She said she was confused by that comment. The only thing I can think why is because her last two exes were broken down messes before. NOW....well....we are no longer so the pain is immense. But I was hoping somewhat might be able to tell me what this means. Or what kind of impression it would have on her hearing such a thing. Your thoughts are appreciated. Thank you. Edited March 7, 2011 by lovnlost
Saphira Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 well like you said. her previous exes were big messes. maybe she was taken aback by how well you were taking the breakup at the time. maybe she was surprised by your calm, and positive feedback ion a way. With endings like the one she was used too, maybe she thought you would be the same and it was weird that you were calm and appeared to be taking it well. IDK thats what it sounds like to me. Have you asked her how it confused her. maybe you could clarify it for her or something
Author lovnlost Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 well like you said. her previous exes were big messes. maybe she was taken aback by how well you were taking the breakup at the time. maybe she was surprised by your calm, and positive feedback ion a way. With endings like the one she was used too, maybe she thought you would be the same and it was weird that you were calm and appeared to be taking it well. IDK thats what it sounds like to me. Have you asked her how it confused her. maybe you could clarify it for her or something I would truly like too....however we are in NC. Have no idea how long that will be. Trying to be strong about it.
depplover_1980 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Well she may have been ending it to create some drama and was surprised when she didn't get that reaction. SO if that was the case stay in NC and you will soon find if she loves you and come back!
WorldIsYours Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 No point in being with someone like that if all they care about is drama.
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