crrogers Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 (edited) The other night I was in a bar during happy hour. This gorgeous woman walks in with her date. I mean all the guys in the bar were staring at her because everything about her was perfect. Anyway, because I am now starting a hairstyling business, I gave her (and some other people) my business card. Fast forward two weeks, she books an appointment with me. She was even more gorgeous in person than I remembered. She seemed like the kind of guy every man would want and, although she seemed to have really high self esteem, she was also very nice and very intereted in me, asking me a lot of questions about myself, etc. I would notice that everytime I would ask her a question about herself, she would answer it and then turn the focus of the conversation back on me. In short, she seemed very interested in me, my life, etc. Come to find out she is just out of medical school and has just moved from Michigan to Texas. She said she doesn't know many people but wishes she did because she is having trouble navigating the city. I think she was using this as a strategy to get my #. I started flirting back with her and asked her if she would like to accompany my friends and I to a casino the next day. She said she may have to work but would let me know that night. I then tried to ask her out for the same night and she said that she was going out with a guy she met at Barnes and NOble. I then asked her about the guy she was with the night we met, and she said that she was on a date with him but it ws nothing exclusive or very serious. She then apologized if she seemed to be aloof when we met at the bar but she said she did not want to make her date at the time feel bad by not paying all her attention to him. Well, something about the idea that she seems to date around so much really turned me off and I decided that I did not want to see her outside of the salon. Anyway, as promised, later that day, she texted me asking what time I was going to the casino and saying that if she could not make it, could we go out to eat that night. I didn't answer her. The next day she sent one more text asking again. Again, I ignored it. The next day she sent a text message saying "I hope I didn't unknowingly offend you with something I said. If I did, I apologize. I also understand that you may have just changed your mind. Although I am disappointed, I hope you don't mind if I keep on seeing you to style my hair -- your're very talented." I really don't want to see her again and kind of want to cancel her appointment (when she books one). I guess I don't want to see her again because it 1) would be very awkard and 2) I have a feeling she is just trying to see me more over time in order to get a date with me.. Do you see anything wrong with my canceling her appointment? Edited March 6, 2011 by crrogers
BB07 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 No wonder women get confused. First you want her, then you don't and all because she is new and going out with different guys. Geez! Yes it's wrong to cancel her appt, but in a way I hope you do so she'll see that she got lucky by your rejection.
K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Yea what the hell dude? You hadn't even STARTED dating her yet and she sounded pretty into it if you ask me. She can't exactly help it if she's dating when she meets you. That's why people date. To figure out if they like somebody. You shut her down before she even got a chance to get started! Text her and say you're sorry! You've been busy...anything! So she doesn't think you're a nut. Don't be cancelling any appointments! She didn't do anything wrong.
quankanne Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 to even ask this early in the game if you should be cancelling any future appointments she books with you is incredibly unprofessional. Now if there was something seriously wrong, like she was psycho or something, then yeah, I'd see why you'd want to limit contact, but it sounds like you were leading her on and now plan to punish her by denying her your skills with hair. as for the impression she dates around a lot ... um, couldn't we theoretically twist things around to say you use your skills as a cosmetologist to pick up women? Even if you don't, it's easy to suggest this because, gee, you work mostly with women, don't you? See where my line of reasoning is going? And how you're using it on someone who more than likely is trying to meet people in a new city?
Author crrogers Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Thanks for everybody's replies but don't you think it's a little crazy (and ballsy) to want to go get your hair styled by a guy who isn't responding to your text messages? Maybe I should have clarified, but I style hair at a midlevel salon. I am a good stylist, not great, so it's not like I am the only one who can give her a decent hairstyle. Thus, I don't think it's the hairstyling she is coming back for.. Anyway, this lady's a doctor so she can afford to get her hair done at much pricier (and better places)
Jesper Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Just because she's a doctor doesn't mean she's loaded...I wouldn't be making assumptions about what she can afford. I personally wouldn't want you doing my hair ever again, because of the way you acted/handled the situation, but I don't see anything "crazy" about her desire to see you in a professional manner.
Imajerk17 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Cripes dude, you're rude and stupid. What she is doing is perfectly fine. If you're hoping to meet someone special, you date around. You are also rude because you showed her all these signs of interest, and now you are pulling away without even saying why. She sounds like she could be a great girl.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Just because she's a doctor doesn't mean she's loaded...I wouldn't be making assumptions about what she can afford. I personally wouldn't want you doing my hair ever again, because of the way you acted/handled the situation, but I don't see anything "crazy" about her desire to see you in a professional manner. Yep, most doctors start working right away to pay off their loans from college. Just because a high paying job sounds ludicrous and sounds high- paying, one may forget most of their incomes are already being divvied up to financial aid. Even people I know who are lawyers are still paying off loans in their thirties. This girl sounds really charming. She didn't brag about her dates and in fact was extremely honest about who she's seeing. I think if you're going to start judging her for " seeing people", you might just be a hypocrite since you kinda, sorta.... flirted and hit on her when she was with her date.
AmEricanWomann Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 crrogers, I was going to post about what a jerk you were being to what sounded like a very lovely and nice woman and how unprofessional you would be to cancel her appointment, but something about your posts just didn't seem right, so I looked up your about your previous posting history and found this thread you started on Dec 1st of last year: About 1 year ago, I met a guy on Yahoo! personals. I was finisihing up my residency and knew I would be leaving the state in 8 months. The relationship went really well. However, we cuddled a lot but he didn't really want that much sex. Anyway, we started dating and became exclusive. When I had to leave the state to finish my education, he and I decided to continue dating long-distance. Well, I moved to Seatlle to do a post-doc and had a roommate who always wanted to fix me up with her friends. I told her that I had a bf back in Michigan and logged into Yahoo! to show her what I thought was his inactive profile. When I logged into the website, I found that he had uploaded new pictures and the account was re-activated. From there, I went to Match.com and found a profile there. He was also on hookup sites. If anything can be said in his defense, he did write "NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOKUP" on his hook up site profiles. However, he was shirtless in the pictures. UGH! I called him about this and he said he was not cheating, that he was lonely and wanting to chat w/ othes in the area. I believed him because when we were living in the same city, I once saw a message from one of these hook up sites where a girl mentioned he had a nice chest and he complimented her chest in return. SHe then asked him to come to her house but he said that he was too "tired" rather than saying he had a girlfriend (me). I found it peculiar he said that and asked him to delete his profile. He did for awhile... Other than that, no problems in the first 8 months Well, now I am almost finished with my post-doc and he either wants me to move to Michigan to be with him. I have decided to break up with him but feel guilty for leaving him for an incident that occurred 6 months ago. However, I just can't see myself living with someone who rarely has sex with me and went behind my back to place online personals on dating sites. Can anyone tell me how I can break up with him while sparing his feelings? And THIS thread you started in March of last year : Gf updated her Yahoo! profile with new pictures I met a a guy about four months before finishing med school and moving to another state to start my residency. When I left, the person I dated wanted to date long distance starting in November. He and I plan on seeing each other next month and he wants to move across the country to be with me. Although I knew he had a Yahoo! personals account, he told me it was inactive. I am not a jealous type and honestly never checked to make sure he was telling me the truth. A few days ago, I logged on to show a new friend my bf's picture. Low and behold, although he hadn't changed the text in his ad, he had uploaded 3 new pictures. I became suspicious and checked some hook up sites. He also had profiles on these. In his defense, his profile on this chat/hook up site said "I am NOT looking for a hook up" a couple of times; however, he knew I did not approve of his having profiles on these types of sites (we had talked about this in the beginning). When I confronted him, he told me that he was only on YahoO! personals in order to chat with others. When I pressed the issue further, he said that he kept on receiving e-mails from Yahoo saying people thought he was cute and wanted to see who these people were. However, when I think about this, I realize you do not need to upload new pictures to see who is checking you out.... Here are my questions: 1 - Do people upload pictures on Yahoo personals to chat with others? 2 - Would you forgive him if he had never been unfaithful before 3 - Am I being naive trusting him? So, are you a man who was pretending to be a female doctor last year, or are you a woman who is now pretending to be a guy who met a female doctor this year...or are you someone with multiple personality disorder and a female doctor/resident fetish? OR are you just a troll who forgot which account you were posting from. BTW the post from March of last year was titled" Gf updated her Yahoo! profile with new pictures." So it looks like you were already confused. Whatever your explanation, I am going to assume, that you made up this whole story about meeting and then subsequently dumping the beautiful lady doctor.
JungleLover Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 So, are you a man who was pretending to be a female doctor last year, or are you a woman who is now pretending to be a guy who met a female doctor this year...or are you someone with multiple personality disorder and a female doctor/resident fetish? OR are you just a troll who forgot which account you were posting from. BTW the post from March of last year was titled" Gf updated her Yahoo! profile with new pictures." So it looks like you were already confused. Whatever your explanation, I am going to assume, that you made up this whole story about meeting and then subsequently dumping the beautiful lady doctor. Wow, I don't think anyone has ever been owned like this in the history of internet forumosity. Three cheers for AmEricanWomann!
Art_Critic Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 (edited) Busted... or.. maybe she is now into women instead of men.. Edited March 7, 2011 by Art_Critic
youaretheone Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I did not know we had aliens posting in this forum.
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