forgetabouther Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 so it has been almost half a year since i dated this guy.. however we seem to have been missing the "honeymoon" period ever since we started. the reason of him breaking up with his ex was because his ex wanted to marry but he wasn't ready coz of financial status, etc. Other than that, they are very compatible in terms of personality. They were each other's first love and they were together for about 4.5-5 years... and me n him got together 3 months after they broke up. So recently i asked... if it wasn't becuz of the marriage issue, would they still be together now... and he said yes, and he did view her as a marriage partner if she didn't insist on getting marry so soon. And I also asked if your financial status become stable in the future.. and if you and her are still single, would you consider marrying her.. he said you never know what will happen, but maybe he would. so recently i found some pictures of him and his ex on facebook. they look so happy in those photos. and i felt that i am not being appreciated becuz he never suggested to do those activities with me. and i've been asking him.. how come we never had these stages where you view me as the first priority.. then he would answer it's because he is too busy.. and if he is dating any other girl in the future.. he would still treat them like he treats me... but somehow in those photos i do sense that she was the centre of his life back then.. I really want to believe him that he is trying his very best but somehow i sensed that he really loved his ex back then and i really wish he would love me the way he loved her. =( coz i think that if you truly love a person... the other side would feel it. Like i feel like asking a lot from him but if he makes me feel secure abt this relationship i wouldn't be asking for things from him.. what should i do?
MJ2 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Just focus on yalls relationship and try not to compare it to the one he and his ex had. If he loved her with his whole heart he prolly would have married her instead of moving on without her.
depplover_1980 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I disagree. I think your instincts are right here and he is not making you feel special and if you are to have a relationship then you need to feel special. Personally I suspect you were a rebound because he was sick of being lonely and he is waiting for something better to come along, hence he has referred a couple of times to when he dates others in the future.
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