simple_city_girl Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 my beautiful friendship with MM ended in a very bad way and there was lot of hurt and bad feeling during that time. I somehow managed to have NC with him. It hurt like hell when he rejected me and asked me stay away from him But even these months I had been thinking about the good time that we have shared over a period of 5 years. today I met my MM after 5 months of NC. he was a changed person. he was gentle and nice and concerned. When I met him last he said very bad things to me and was almost ready to throw me out of his life. but today he was so nice to me. We chatted for over 3 hours and it was very good. It was a weird feeling.... i recalled the time when I was dying to talk to him and he wasnt even interested and now we were chatting for hours.... life is really funny...
findingnemo Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 my beautiful friendship with MM ended in a very bad way and there was lot of hurt and bad feeling during that time. I somehow managed to have NC with him. It hurt like hell when he rejected me and asked me stay away from him But even these months I had been thinking about the good time that we have shared over a period of 5 years. today I met my MM after 5 months of NC. he was a changed person. he was gentle and nice and concerned. When I met him last he said very bad things to me and was almost ready to throw me out of his life. but today he was so nice to me. We chatted for over 3 hours and it was very good. It was a weird feeling.... i recalled the time when I was dying to talk to him and he wasnt even interested and now we were chatting for hours.... life is really funny... SCG, MM like any other human being can't be mad for 5 months. That was a long A you had. Are you over him? Congratulations for keeping NC.
Carrot2000 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Are you still married? How are things with your husband?
BB07 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 my beautiful friendship with MM ended in a very bad way and there was lot of hurt and bad feeling during that time. I somehow managed to have NC with him. It hurt like hell when he rejected me and asked me stay away from him But even these months I had been thinking about the good time that we have shared over a period of 5 years. today I met my MM after 5 months of NC. he was a changed person. he was gentle and nice and concerned. When I met him last he said very bad things to me and was almost ready to throw me out of his life. but today he was so nice to me. We chatted for over 3 hours and it was very good. It was a weird feeling.... i recalled the time when I was dying to talk to him and he wasnt even interested and now we were chatting for hours.... life is really funny... Aren't you concerned that this newfound niceness is just a ploy to suck you back in? When someone shows you the 1st time who they really are............believe them.
Emme Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 It's really great that the two of you could be civil to each other. I thnk that is so important. You shared your life with someone the least you can do is show respect to each other. I hope this was a great additional closure for you. The correct way it should have ended.
Author simple_city_girl Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 SCG, MM like any other human being can't be mad for 5 months. That was a long A you had. Are you over him? Congratulations for keeping NC. When I met him this time, I had mixed feelings. I was happy because I never expected that after what happened he would even talk to me so nicely. I felt nice afterwards, but I am not sure if I felt anything special afterwards... I cant believe I missed this man so much. However I do miss our friendship just like before..
Author simple_city_girl Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Are you still married? How are things with your husband? Thanks for remembering me. I am still married, close to 2 years now. But i still feel something is missing between me and my husband. he's a very nice guy and our lives are going smoothly - but i still feel there is something incomplete. when I met MM yesterday, those good friendship times were revived. and I remembered how MM used to understand me completely, my every move, my every action, my every emotion. It was a good time - I still miss this friendship...though I am not sure if this time I will act crazy to want to MM back - that part of me looks over....
Author simple_city_girl Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Aren't you concerned that this newfound niceness is just a ploy to suck you back in? When someone shows you the 1st time who they really are............believe them. MM was nice and gentle. it was good while it lasted. I am not very sure about this. he never asked me to stay in touch or anything. he said he was happy with my life. though if I judge him through this eyes, it certainly felt like he did miss me and looked back at our friendship in a nice way .. what do you think
BB07 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 MM was nice and gentle. it was good while it lasted. I am not very sure about this. he never asked me to stay in touch or anything. he said he was happy with my life. though if I judge him through this eyes, it certainly felt like he did miss me and looked back at our friendship in a nice way .. what do you think I think if you aren't very careful you'll find yourself back in the affair and I'm not one to believe that you can be friends again with a past MM. Just my 2 cents........
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Thanks for remembering me. I am still married, close to 2 years now. But i still feel something is missing between me and my husband. he's a very nice guy and our lives are going smoothly - but i still feel there is something incomplete. when I met MM yesterday, those good friendship times were revived. and I remembered how MM used to understand me completely, my every move, my every action, my every emotion. It was a good time - I still miss this friendship...though I am not sure if this time I will act crazy to want to MM back - that part of me looks over.... BB is right. He is fishing abit. And, you need to be very careful and not allow yourself to get close to him again. He's a poison to your marriage and to you. I've forgotten, but how long have you been married? Did you ever seek counselling? To help find out what's missing inside of you? What have you done to try to fill the void that the MM filled in your life? Did you tell your H that you saw your exMM?
Author simple_city_girl Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 BB is right. He is fishing abit. And, you need to be very careful and not allow yourself to get close to him again. He's a poison to your marriage and to you. I've forgotten, but how long have you been married? Did you ever seek counselling? To help find out what's missing inside of you? What have you done to try to fill the void that the MM filled in your life? Did you tell your H that you saw your exMM? Hello, thanks for remembering me. I am married now close to 2 years. After I had a terrible and painful time with MM - I did go for counseling for a brief period. Later I realized that NC and time would help me heal. These past 5 months have been helpful in the way that I am now not yearning for MM most of time. but this is not helping my marriage. My husband is extremely nice and patient guy and our lives are going smoothly but I am not very happy - there is constant void. after meeting MM after 5 months of NC, I have realised 2 things. I am sure that I cannot betray my husband by restarting the affair but I am also sure that I miss MM and our friendship. Nothing can fill this void it feels - I might continue to secretly cherish my friendship with MM and go on with my life. It sounds very bad I know.....
mbm69 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Aren't you concerned that this newfound niceness is just a ploy to suck you back in? That was my first thought as well. I wouldn't trust him. Be nice and civil but don't get sucked back in.
Owl Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hello, thanks for remembering me. I am married now close to 2 years. After I had a terrible and painful time with MM - I did go for counseling for a brief period. Later I realized that NC and time would help me heal. These past 5 months have been helpful in the way that I am now not yearning for MM most of time. but this is not helping my marriage. My husband is extremely nice and patient guy and our lives are going smoothly but I am not very happy - there is constant void. after meeting MM after 5 months of NC, I have realised 2 things. I am sure that I cannot betray my husband by restarting the affair but I am also sure that I miss MM and our friendship. Nothing can fill this void it feels - I might continue to secretly cherish my friendship with MM and go on with my life. It sounds very bad I know..... So what are you doing to fix your marriage to fill that void? Or doing to end the marriage so that you can find a relationship that does fill the void? Does your H know that you feel that there's still this void in your marriage? Have you communicated this to him, let him know how deep/strong this void is? Given him the information he needs to try to fill it...or let him know that you're looking for someone who can?
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