germanfastmaus Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 i'm wondering if any women out there think a man who carries a gun on him everywhere he goes is viewed as "not good dating material." i'm a 2nd amend. advocate and wondered since my sister tells me that she would never date anyone who actually carries everywhere they went, if she is alone, or she is right on with her comment.
Pyro Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I can't speak for you or anyone else with a gun but a friend of mine loves his gun as well and all he seems to attract are the crazies and insecure women.
LittleTiger Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I'd be wary about dating a man who owned a gun, never mind carried one all the time........but then I don't live in the US.
kinsey Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 While I support the 2nd amendment, I would think you were a nut job if you carried a gun everywhere, and therefore would not date you. First impressions and all that.
Woggle Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Owning a gun is one thing but some NRA nut who is obsessed with them would certainly be a red flag.
AverageJoe Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Someone who owns a gun or carries is a nut or a person to be wary of? Sheesh. When seconds count the police are only minutes away.
Intricategirl Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I support the second amendment, have fired a gun exactly once, and I am a raging liberal. That being said, I wouldn't necessarily be freaked out that a date carried a concealed weapon. I'd be extremely freaked out if he felt the need to make me aware of it. Especially given your other board about going out only once with a woman before you're done seeing her. You're seriously going to go out with a woman once and inform her, "Just so you know, I have a gun on me." Yeah, that's not going to end well.
TaurusTerp Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 If you carry a gun everywhere, you probably don't have the judgement to actually use it properly. Just sayin.
tinktronik Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 On it's face I have no problem with carrying at all. But I will add that I have known 2 people who carried everywhere (these are the only 2 people I know who have made it knowledge to me anyway) and they were both a bit "off" mentally to begin with.
johan Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I imagine that to most people it conveys a high level of insecurity and paranoia. You'll probably attract a woman who shares those traits or is desperate enough to overlook them.
SunshineD Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I'm dating someone in law enforcement. I never thought I'd be comfortable with it, and I'm not. I ask him not to bring it into my house and leave it in his car when we go out. I get the feeling he's "working on me" to make me feel more comfortable with it being around all the time. I have a friend who dates someone who's not in law enforcement and carries a gun everywhere. He seems super-paranoid to me, and I wouldn't want to go anywhere with him.
phineas Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I havn't gotten my pistol permit yet. When I get it, I will be able to legally carry it anywhere in my state. I won't though. I'm 39 yrs old & have never been in a situation where "gee, wish I had a glock" went through my mind in order to improve an already bad situation.
Cee Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I was at a party and a man who carries a gun was showing it to my boyfriend. They were in the corner of the deck opening it and I could hear the trigger clicks. One coppery bullet rested on the deck rail. He had it for his personal safety having been shot in a mugging once, so he justified carrying it always. The man had been smoking weed and drinking whisky during the night. He didn't seem wasted, but being on the deck with him, I felt uneasy. I know many people keeps guns at home or at their businesses, but carrying a weapon makes little sense. If a person is afraid, they can't take preventative measures such as not being out alone late at night and so forth.
AverageJoe Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 My State government apparently doesn't think I am nuts, mentally off, paranoid or, a little off to get a permit. So I really don't need the approval of anyone else. I went through field training, psych eval, safety courses and an extensive background check. I don't carry EVERYWHERE but I have the option to do so when I think it is appropriate. Situational awareness should at least play some role in everyones life. But as we see here there are those that are quick to judge and cast aspersions. As far as dating I have only went out with one woman that had an issue with it. I told her if it is that much of an issue for her then there probably is no reason for us to continue seeing each other. And I am better for it. Firearms mixed with drugs or alcohol is a big disaster waiting to happen. We hear those stories only because they are negative instances. Much like a condom. I would rather have one and not need it than to need one and not have it. I hope I never have to.
sally4sara Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have no problem with a person smelling of gun oil so long as they have to good sense to leave the piece at home when socializing. If it were due to the necessity and nature of their job - which you don't have - it would be understandable. But since you're talking about a date and you don't intend on it ever being more than one date should you find someone willing to date you, I don't see the need for you being armed on said singular date.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I don't see how one could carry a gun all the time and not also have some kind of suspect paranoid world view. I've never owned nor carried and lived all my life until this year in NYC where there is crime. I just never occurred to me that I needed a gun or my life was in such threat that I should always be at the ready to kill someone else. Truthfully, I think I probably would have shot had I had a gun on me all the time. One time I came out from my apartment house door on a Sunday afternoon for a walk. I saw a guy emerge from behind a parked car and start running. The an elderly woman picked herself to her feet and cried help. It seems the bastard had just knocked her down and stole her hand bag. He ran to a car which was already slowly moving and jumped in. If I had had a gun, I think I'd have shot at the vehicle or its occupants. I don't want to live in a place where other people might do that as well. I guaranty you there would be more casualties from unintentional shootings than hits that would do any good.
Duckduckgoose Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have two guns and don't see anything wrong with someone packing everywhere they are ALLOWED to pack. The laws differ by state... but really you shouldn't be taking that gun into your kids' schools and bars and churches... or government buildings. Would I date someone who felt compelled to carry a gun everywhere he went? Well if he's not in law enforcement or under the witness protection I would seriously wonder why he was doing it. I am very pro-environment but it doesn't mean I put 500 stupid ass bumper stickers on my car and go insane every time someone throws a water bottle away. Its your own personal preference but just know that birds of a feather flock together.
AverageJoe Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Truthfully, I think I probably would have shot had I had a gun on me all the time. One time I came out from my apartment house door on a Sunday afternoon for a walk. I saw a guy emerge from behind a parked car and start running. The an elderly woman picked herself to her feet and cried help. It seems the bastard had just knocked her down and stole her hand bag. He ran to a car which was already slowly moving and jumped in. If I had had a gun, I think I'd have shot at the vehicle or its occupants. You have no business carrying a firearm. A lady gets knocked down and you want to shoot someone. Just great. And people wonder why those of us that carry get a bad image. At least you acknowledge your own personal potential reactions. I will give you that.
Jannah Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 i'm wondering if any women out there think a man who carries a gun on him everywhere he goes is viewed as "not good dating material." i'm a 2nd amend. advocate and wondered since my sister tells me that she would never date anyone who actually carries everywhere they went, if she is alone, or she is right on with her comment. I agree with your sister. The only exception would be if he was in law enforcement.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I imagine that to most people it conveys a high level of insecurity and paranoia. You'll probably attract a woman who shares those traits or is desperate enough to overlook them. Bingo. (10 chars)
Titania22 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Truly men are dangerous enough, they don't need weapons. Of course if it were a war zone, or the zombie apocalypes that would be a different issue.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Guns are one of the least educated and most emotionally charged issues I have ever dealt with. The issue is often dominated by extreme ideas where the best solutions would come through moderate compromises. I own a gun, have a permit to carry a concealed handgun in the state of Virginia and believe it is a right every lawful person should have. I personally rarely carry and my gun is mostly for home defense. I know 2 persons who carry most places they go and they are wonderful individuals. Both are married and have families. I personally feel everyone should be educated and trained on proper and safe firearm use to dispel some of the fear regarding simply owning a firearm, let alone carrying. Education is the solution to extremism.
phineas Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Truly men are dangerous enough, they don't need weapons. Of course if it were a war zone, or the zombie apocalypes that would be a different issue. Zombie apocalypses are one of those things that tends to sneak up on you when your not expecting it. Don't you want to be dating a guy who's packing heat just in case?
Intricategirl Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Zombie apocalypses are one of those things that tends to sneak up on you when your not expecting it. Don't you want to be dating a guy who's packing heat just in case? Just accept this statement for what it is and chalk it up to the strange people you meet on the internet... I actually have interviewed a lot of zombie movie directors and run a zombie club. If there is such a thing as a zombie expert, I'm about level 4/5. And we're trying to get all the people to quit taking their weapons to every meeting because we're already seen as being complete dorks. We'd rather not be seen as dangerous dorks. :laugh: And that being said, dear god no, I don't want to be dating a guy with a gun. Bullets are finite and will not be produced once the apocalypse happens. If I get my way, I'll be dating a samurai.
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