the_janitor Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have been having some unwanted thoughts and anxiety. These thoughts have been trying to tell me to break up with my girlfriend of 4 months and also keep bringing up one of my exes from 7 months ago and causing me to still be attracted to her even though I love my new girlfriend way more. My girlfriend now really loves me. She has been so wonderful to help me through this even though now it's starting to wear her down as well. we had a big fight today over this because she took those thoughts as me not loving her 100% like I should be and like I want to be because they're causing me to continuously question our relationship and emotionally cheat on her with the other girl. I met the other girl last year in a seminar. She seemed to be attracted to me and we spent a ton of time together on campus. We would study together, walk all around campus together, and we even took a class together. Then one day 3 months into it I found out she was Muslim. My whole family is Christian and that was not going to work long term because I would have to turn from my faith and also from my family, so I ended it. She never fought back for me but I still think about her even though I don't want to be because I want to be able to give my new girlfriend a 100%. I feel I'm still thinking about her because she was sweet and cordial even though our relationship wasn't going anywhere. Looking back on it she might have only wanted to be friends. The thoughts that are causing me to question my relationship with my girlfriend now are saying things like she's too crude for you and you don't really love her, which both are obviously false. She's crude sometimes, but she knows when it's appropriate. I took her home and she did just fine in front of my parents on the crudeness. I don't understand why these thoughts are trying to cause me to leave her for no reason. If you look at the different aspects of a relationship over time, we're perfect for each other. Our beliefs on religion, sex, marriage, children, and money all line up perfectly. I always enjoy being with her, even when these thoughts cause me to think I won't, I always do, and she cares about me a lot. So what do I do about these thoughts because I don't want them to get the better of me and cause me to leave her and I don't want to think about my ex the whole time I'm with my girlfriend now because that is in no way how you treat your girlfriend, I'm really lucky she hasn't left me yet. Plus these thoughts are triggering anxiety which is having a negative affect on my health. My pulse rate gets up to 120 for most of the day and I am unable to concentrate for most of the day. So what do I do about these thoughts because I don't want them to get the better of me and cause me to leave her and I don't want to think about my ex the whole time I'm with my girlfriend now because that is in no way how you treat your girlfriend, I'm really lucky she hasn't left me yet. These thoughts are causing me to take my college education for granted as well as having a very loving girlfriend. Plus these thoughts are triggering anxiety which is having a negative affect on my health. My pulse rate gets up to 120 for most of the day and I am unable to concentrate for most of the day.
Tayla Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 see a campus counselor. see your english teacher , and see that you come back here then to update. Welcome to LS.
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