suny27 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have been with husband for 4 years, dating 3, married 1. We have had many problems doing this time...drugs,drinking, gambling,stealing, cheating..I have always found away to forgive him. After the last round of cheating that I know of, I found out I was pregnant..we agreed to try and work it out. During this time he was very cold to me said it was stress, we were never intimate, he wouldn't talk to me about it...My pregnancy was high risk and I spent those first four weeks in terror that I would lose our baby. I suffered silently without him to talk to. One night I ran into an old friend and we wound up hooking up(oral sex) It was the first and only time I have ever cheated on my husband. I was so desperate for some attention and affection and after weeks of begging hubby I was weak. I felt so guilty didn't know what to do. After 3 months of walking around with the guilt I confessed to hubby. He was mad but things seemed pretty normal for us. Then two months later he starts stayin out all night...I confront him..he admits he is angry at me for cheating can't get over it and wants a divorce. I am shocked. I know I cheated but after all we have been through he won't even give me another chance. He has five children whom I love dearly and we have a child on the way. I find myself so angry at him....mostly i don't know how to act. I am angry sometimes and sometimes I am sad begging him to stay i'm sure some of this is due to hormones....We do not live together. He thinks I should continue to spend time with the kids as usual (I have been), he says he loves me but can't be with me, I have hurt him too bad and he doesn't see himself getting over it. I don't know what I should be doing? Should I just let it go? Is it understandable not to have him in delivery room? Should I try to just hang in there and hope this is just a phase and he'll get over it soon? Suny27
cyabye Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Wait. You gave oral to another man while you are are still married and PREGNANT (with your husband's baby I assume)? I think divorce is the best way to go here. cya
anne1707 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 He has cheated on you on and off throughout your entire relationship. This man cannot offer you what you want and need. He will never be faithful as he is so completely focussed on himself. I know this is tough but you need to end this destructive relationship before it tears you and your children apart.
Author suny27 Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Wait. You gave oral to another man while you are are still married and PREGNANT (with your husband's baby I assume)? I think divorce is the best way to go here. cya I didn't give I received...if that makes a difference!
Duckduckgoose Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 It still takes two to tango... I don't think he held you down while you were receiving cunnilingus. But anyway from what you have said about the fellow, you should probably just get the divorce. You and your child will be better off. Hit his ass up for child support though.
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