buzz1130 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 What's going on guys,my name is Adam and i stumbled upon this site through Google,before i go into my story i want to say i appreciate ALL feedback and would like to thank anyone ahead of time.Now for the story..i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years until i was caught cheating by my NOW ex girlfriend..I've seriously and sincerely regretted cheating on her in the first place it was a foolish move a stupid move and any other negative word you wanna throw in there..we broke up back in January and it was brutal.Seeing her cry for the first time was something that hit me very hard,she explained to me that we could no longer be together because she couldnt trust me,she needs her space,we should just be friends and that she was talking to another guy.Two weeks later we start talking again and hanging out,she constantly brings up the new guy and how she wants to make it "official" with him.I brush it off tell her to go for it you know why not..while she is out having fun enjoying her new life im working on mine:counseling,cutting all ties from any girl i've ever been with etc.But then about 4 days ago i decided to give her what she wanted:HER SPACE,she was shocked at my decision argued my decision but eventually gave in..we havent spoken since then and it is killing me.I do love this girl very much 2 1/2 years with her is hard to just forget and move on,and to make it worse April 14 would've marked 3 years for us,this no contact is hard.I would do anything to have her back.Anyone care to asses the situation and help me decide whether to move on or keep pushing
Movingthrough Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 What's going on guys,my name is Adam and i stumbled upon this site through Google,before i go into my story i want to say i appreciate ALL feedback and would like to thank anyone ahead of time.Now for the story..i was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years until i was caught cheating by my NOW ex girlfriend..I've seriously and sincerely regretted cheating on her in the first place it was a foolish move a stupid move and any other negative word you wanna throw in there..we broke up back in January and it was brutal.Seeing her cry for the first time was something that hit me very hard,she explained to me that we could no longer be together because she couldnt trust me,she needs her space,we should just be friends and that she was talking to another guy.Two weeks later we start talking again and hanging out,she constantly brings up the new guy and how she wants to make it "official" with him.I brush it off tell her to go for it you know why not..while she is out having fun enjoying her new life im working on mine:counseling,cutting all ties from any girl i've ever been with etc.But then about 4 days ago i decided to give her what she wanted:HER SPACE,she was shocked at my decision argued my decision but eventually gave in..we havent spoken since then and it is killing me.I do love this girl very much 2 1/2 years with her is hard to just forget and move on,and to make it worse April 14 would've marked 3 years for us,this no contact is hard.I would do anything to have her back.Anyone care to asses the situation and help me decide whether to move on or keep pushing We all make mistakes. I would say the minute someone says to you that they cant trust you anymore....you might as well move on. Work on yourself and make sure you dont make that mistake again. IMO i would let her know very seriously and sincerly that you are sorry and you did it for YOUR reasons. You dont want her moving on thinking that all guys are going to be like that. At this point i dont think anything good could honestly come from you guys. I would let it go.
Author buzz1130 Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 We all make mistakes. I would say the minute someone says to you that they cant trust you anymore....you might as well move on. Work on yourself and make sure you dont make that mistake again. IMO i would let her know very seriously and sincerly that you are sorry and you did it for YOUR reasons. You dont want her moving on thinking that all guys are going to be like that. At this point i dont think anything good could honestly come from you guys. I would let it go. Yea i guess..its going to be hard though you know,but ive been considering just moving on,i have been talking to someone else but i just want to move slow because i dont want to feel like im just using her to help me heal then dump her and recycle to another girl you know,but thanks again for the input it is much appreciated
Template Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Be grateful you've had 2 1/2 years with her, remember the good memories, and move on. There are reasons why most people here, as well as professionals, recommend the no contact rule. It's not only to help HER move on, but also to assist YOU in moving on. Take this opportunity to truly assess this lesson, and really figure out why you did what you did. Then learn about yourself. Who knows, maybe one day in the future, you may have a 2nd chance, and if that day ever comes, be worthy of someone who deserves it. If not, then at least, hopefully, you'll still grow as a person, and be better for it.
Author buzz1130 Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Be grateful you've had 2 1/2 years with her, remember the good memories, and move on. There are reasons why most people here, as well as professionals, recommend the no contact rule. It's not only to help HER move on, but also to assist YOU in moving on. Take this opportunity to truly assess this lesson, and really figure out why you did what you did. Then learn about yourself. Who knows, maybe one day in the future, you may have a 2nd chance, and if that day ever comes, be worthy of someone who deserves it. If not, then at least, hopefully, you'll still grow as a person, and be better for it. Yea i mean from what i've already learned if she was to agree to reconcile right now i wouldnt do it.i believe she needs her time to heal and so do i.as much as i love her i DO know that it wouldnt be healthy to try and reconcile now.i will indeed continue to better myself and learn from my "mistake".When its all said and done POSITIVITY will always be the outcome..if its meant to be then things will find a way to come together,if not then i take that check and roll.lol.Thanks Template for your input
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