K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Most of us sit here and wonder how and why our exes could've possibly done this to us. That they are inhuman. But if we are really REAAlLLLllyyy honest... you know that we have been the dumpers too. And sometimes not so pretty ones. We ask ourselves what could they possibly been thinking when they dumped us. Well what were we thinking when we dumped them? ? I remember in high school, my first boyfriend ever. We were 16. He gave me a ring and said he wanted to marry me. But I had no experience at all. So when I ran across this tall sexy junior that liked me, I dumped my old reliable boyfriend. I can still picture it. Standing in the sunshine outside of school with him handing me this ring. And me telling him I liked someone else. I was so ate up with new guy and so completely selfish. I still remember it 20 years later and feel horrible. It's selfishness. That's why people dump people. The heart wants what the heart wants. I did this another time as well. So I figure karma's a bitch and I got what I gave. I'm telling you... I can look at this all clearly NOW but THEN all I knew was that I wanted what I wanted. Ugh. Please don't hate me. Tell me about when YOU were the dumper? Come on....
roman_pavluchenko Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 i didn't feel the same for a girlfriend of mine once, but i didn't want to hurt her so i dragged it out for 2 weeks. In the last week her best friend started talking to me and getting really close to me, i went with it and eventually dumped my girlfriend, luckily she didn't feel the same either! but i got really close with her best friend and it pissed my ex off, but i have never looked back and thought about her again :S
USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I was the dumper only once in my life. She let me know early on that she didn't want kids (and of course I do), so I figured there was no point in continuing to see her... We hadn't been dating for very long, so I did it over the phone and just told her the truth...
Author K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 USMCHokie I think what you did was kind of the 'right' way to dump somebody. You were honest. There was no deceit. That's the thing that I most feel with this breakup. Deceived. (hey is that you in that pic?) roman- yep, not the greatest break up but your heart wanted what it wanted. That's the cruel nature of it all.
USMCHokie Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 USMCHokie I think what you did was kind of the 'right' way to dump somebody. You were honest. There was no deceit. That's the thing that I most feel with this breakup. Deceived. (hey is that you in that pic?) Yea, when my ex broke up with me, I felt deceived for the longest time...I hated that feeling...but you know what? That feeling of deception is created by our own mind...it's up to you to decide and accept that things didn't work out...the details and reasons just don't matter in the end...and it makes it a lot easier to move on... And yes, it is.
loveforever Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Most of us sit here and wonder how and why our exes could've possibly done this to us. That they are inhuman. But if we are really REAAlLLLllyyy honest... you know that we have been the dumpers too. And sometimes not so pretty ones. We ask ourselves what could they possibly been thinking when they dumped us. Well what were we thinking when we dumped them? ? I remember in high school, my first boyfriend ever. We were 16. He gave me a ring and said he wanted to marry me. But I had no experience at all. So when I ran across this tall sexy junior that liked me, I dumped my old reliable boyfriend. I can still picture it. Standing in the sunshine outside of school with him handing me this ring. And me telling him I liked someone else. I was so ate up with new guy and so completely selfish. I still remember it 20 years later and feel horrible. It's selfishness. That's why people dump people. The heart wants what the heart wants. I did this another time as well. So I figure karma's a bitch and I got what I gave. I'm telling you... I can look at this all clearly NOW but THEN all I knew was that I wanted what I wanted. Ugh. Please don't hate me. Tell me about when YOU were the dumper? Come on.... I'm only going to count the long term relationships.....not the short flings.....funny thing all the LTR I ended (except for my marriage ..... I've dumped my first boyfriend of 4 1/2 years because he was cheating on me (twice).....no further explanation necessary, is there ?!?!? I've dumped boyfriend number 2 because he was an alcoholic and emotionally and physically abusive.....no further explanation necessary, is there ?!?!? I've dumped boyfriend number 3 for my ex-husband.... I was with him for only 2 months (not really a LTR but it would've been one if I wouldn't have met ex-husband !!!)..... I went to a club without # 3 because he had to work and I met ex-h.....sparks were flying like crazy and I knew he was the one..... I never called or saw # 3 again....I was too scared to officially break up with him because I had no real reason other than the new guy being the one and I didn't want to hear the begging and pleading..... I've been dumped by all my STR and felt bad, but got on my feet fast....after all I was young, sexy and full of confidence..... The divorce has hit me soooooooooooooooo bad it's unimaginable....I guess that's my karma
paiger Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Ah yes.. playing the part of the dumper. Not the most fun position to play but it does come along. I unfortunately broke up with my boyfriend because I simply started to like another guy. In no way did I cheat on my boyfriend just to make things clear. My group of friends welcomed a new guy into the "group" and I just found myself unbelievably attracted to him. As much as I tried to deny it, I was drawn to this guy. Which led my feelings toward my boyfriend to slowly fade... Eventually my conscious caught up with me and I decided to end things with my boyfriend. I even managed to mistake my boyfriends name for the guy I liked's name. Absolutely terrible. Shameful, and I do regret doing it. But like "k.k" says, you can't control what your heart desires.
Mixed28 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Ah yes.. playing the part of the dumper. Not the most fun position to play but it does come along. I unfortunately broke up with my boyfriend because I simply started to like another guy. In no way did I cheat on my boyfriend just to make things clear. My group of friends welcomed a new guy into the "group" and I just found myself unbelievably attracted to him. As much as I tried to deny it, I was drawn to this guy. Which led my feelings toward my boyfriend to slowly fade... Eventually my conscious caught up with me and I decided to end things with my boyfriend. I even managed to mistake my boyfriends name for the guy I liked's name. Absolutely terrible. Shameful, and I do regret doing it. But like "k.k" says, you can't control what your heart desires. Are you with the new guy?
depplover_1980 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 K.K, please see my current live thread for some insight into your question. I have had to dump someone but it was only after 3 dates, yet he was really hurt. Apart from that though, during my 3 relationships I was dumped.
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