K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I think what keeps me down alot and making it hard for me to get over my ex is because of the way we met. We were friends first. Never even thought he was that great. We built a bond on friendship and sharing things that we probably never would've shared if we had met with the intent of starting a relationship. Like online or a blind date or something. It was magical. Like a bomb went off!!! Not planned. Not contrived, not fake or pushed or rushed or ... I don't know. I just want to meet somebody THAT way again. Naturally. Is that asking too much? Am I alone in my thinking? Do any of you feel this way? Am I living in the stone age?
Movingthrough Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I think what keeps me down alot and making it hard for me to get over my ex is because of the way we met. We were friends first. Never even thought he was that great. We built a bond on friendship and sharing things that we probably never would've shared if we had met with the intent of starting a relationship. Like online or a blind date or something. It was magical. Like a bomb went off!!! Not planned. Not contrived, not fake or pushed or rushed or ... I don't know. I just want to meet somebody THAT way again. Naturally. Is that asking too much? Am I alone in my thinking? Do any of you feel this way? Am I living in the stone age? I agree. With my ex, the hardest part has been the thought of loosing a best friend. We had issues near the end but it all was very natural and took years to build into anything more then a friend. Sometimes i wonder how much "effort" i want to put into the dating world only because it seems more artificial that way. 90% of me says it has to just "happen".
fishtaco Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Not planned. Not contrived, not fake or pushed or rushed or ... Since I am your favorite poster, I figure I should respond. I would say then you are depending on blind luck. So, are you lucky? I'm not, so I have to work for it. But if you're lucky, then more power to you. You'll be able to accomplish feats that I can never duplicate.
Author K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 I don't think that I'm particularly lucky, no. Uh uh. That's why I'm sad feeshhhhhhhtaco... cause I alone still. tacOO taco taco.. feesHHHH oh man... forgive me. It's drinking him off my mind night.
fishtaco Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I don't think that I'm particularly lucky, no. Uh uh. That's why I'm sad feeshhhhhhhtaco... cause I alone still. tacOO taco taco.. feesHHHH oh man... forgive me. It's drinking him off my mind night. Oh... you're drunk. In that case, how about I bring some fishtaco to your house tonight? I have many ways to help get him off your mind. Just kidding. Well, first, OT, if you're not lucky then you have to work for it, like me. When luck happens, gladly accept it. But that luck will happen whether you are working hard or not, and blind luck ALWAY trumps hardwork, no matter what. But when luck isn't happening, hard work matters. So do a combination. Enjoy opportunities that both come from luck and from hard work. Second, while I'm not against drinking, I'm against drinking away your sorrows. It's dangerous territory. I try to condition myself to drink only when I'm having a good time. And finally. I'm sorry you're feeling bad about your ex. I went though the same thing... took me a whopping two years of on and off depression (not clinical, just get really sad at times). I didn't drink. Instead, I played guitar. So I didn't become an alcoholic, but I managed to drastically increase my guitar playing skills in the last two years.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Natural is fine if life happens to work out that way. Some people naturally find quality friends, successful careers, great roommates, a calling in life, inspiration and etc. Others have to put effort, thought and work toward such realities. Compared to natural results doing work to obtain a relationship doesn't diminish the magic, wonderfulness, excitement, or connection that can be experienced. IME, it can add a deeper appreciation for what one has. Compared to natural results there is a danger of putting forth effort... and that is the possibility of failure. Especially when failure becomes a common theme in one's life.
Author K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 you love the fishtaco!! i love the fish taco (wait...we could round and round with that one lol) FEEESHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTACOOOOOOOOOOOO OMG that feels so good to say! Y'all gotta try it. FEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSHHHHHH...ah..hell.. oh damn you play guitar? he played guitar. i still have all his videos where he is playing for me and when he sings he does this little sexy thing with his mouth. kinda like drags the words out or something. 2 years? ****. i don't wanna be feeling this way after 2 years. I don't drink much anymore. Usually just on saturday night when I post here and try not to think about who he's having sex with. ugh. what kinda music do you play?
SmileFace Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 , how about I bring some fishtaco to your house tonight? Well, wouldn't the fishtaco already be at her house? Anywho!, you are not alone in your thinking. I feel the same way. I don't want an artificial , or smileface-made relationship. I want one that build over time and blossoms. You know like a good friendship. Sorry about your break up - go drink some water and all the best.
Author K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Natural is fine if life happens to work out that way. Compared to natural results doing work to obtain a relationship doesn't diminish the magic, wonderfulness, excitement, or connection that can be experienced. IME, it can add a deeper appreciation for what one has. . Really? That's reassuring to hear. Well how do you go into something like a blind date or an online interest knowing full well that you both are there to feel 'sparks'? Seems like there would be alot of pressure. Ya know? I just want magic!!
fishtaco Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 2 years? ****. i don't wanna be feeling this way after 2 years. I don't drink much anymore. Usually just on saturday night when I post here and try not to think about who he's having sex with. ugh. what kinda music do you play? Well, two years was the longest I've experienced. And she was very special, and I was the one that screwed up, so it all added up. I started out playing heavy metal. Then I played even heavier metal. Then I started playing acoustic Spanish love songs. Well, pop songs, but they're mostly about love. Now I don't really play metal anymore, I play a bunch of random stuff, whatever I like. Muse, acoustic versions of Billy Idol & Bon Jovi songs, random Spanish pop, whatever. The latest song I'm learning is this: I'm about 75% done figuring it out.
Author K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Hey whats up feeeeshyyyyyy..pretty song! I play the piano a little. Well, I took lessons for years but I'm rusty. A friend of mine has been trying to get me into death metal.. scar symmetry, **** like that. I don't know.... it sorta just makes me angry. I love 80's metal though. Today 'Rockstar' was on. With what's his name in it... marky mark.. I LOVE that movie. If you haven't seen it, you have to! It's a trip.
fishtaco Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hey whats up feeeeshyyyyyy..pretty song! I play the piano a little. Well, I took lessons for years but I'm rusty. A friend of mine has been trying to get me into death metal.. scar symmetry, **** like that. I don't know.... it sorta just makes me angry. I love 80's metal though. Today 'Rockstar' was on. With what's his name in it... marky mark.. I LOVE that movie. If you haven't seen it, you have to! It's a trip. Haha, death metal isn't for everyone. I've associated it with my earlier years of carefree and irresponsible youth. So even though I still like it, having to worry about paying my mortgage and not wasting my weekends driving around with my friends killing time sort of puts me out of the death metal mood. Hope you're feeling better about your ex.
KennyD Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Haha, death metal isn't for everyone. I've associated it with my earlier years of carefree and irresponsible youth. So even though I still like it, having to worry about paying my mortgage and not wasting my weekends driving around with my friends killing time sort of puts me out of the death metal mood. Hope you're feeling better about your ex. Metal for life \m/ !!!!!!!!!
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