mr.goodguy Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 So I've been 2 weeks nc with this woman. She broke contact two times through email and text. I responded days later and did not say much, but was polite. Thing is I don't want to just be an option that she contacts...just wondering thoughts, next time she gives me a crumb, if I were to say "look to be honest, I can't see myself being friends with someone I like...". Curious as how someone would respond to this. Would they want to get back together or is this the final nail in the coffin? Im not into mind games but I understand the importance of nc and push/pull...
Bateman Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Well man...to be honest, I think she just may be feeling bad about the breakup but that DOES NOT mean she will want to get back together. Just keep her on the edge and go on about your life as if you had never met her. I know, easier said than done. If you're feeling brave enough, then tell her how you feel. I told my ex that I couldn't be friends with someone I was in love with so I cut all contact. But just know that if you do that, you better prepare for rejection. I got to that point and it really gave me closure and helped me move on. It may help to post your story here. there's a lot of good insight on this forum.
Author mr.goodguy Posted March 6, 2011 Author Posted March 6, 2011 Thanks for the advice Bateman. Completely agree with your first point. I'm definitely moving on with things in my life and pushing back any thoughts of her. I'm going to have her contact me if she wants to get anything going...keep her on the edge of her seat as you said. But as it was a long distance relationship, there's bound to be other great girl between here and there so it's a matter of keeping myself busy.
Veng Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 if I were to say "look to be honest, I can't see myself being friends with someone I like...". Curious as how someone would respond to this. Would they want to get back together or is this the final nail in the coffin? It will surely not lead them to say that they want to get back together, and they will probably agree with you, BUT it will not necessarily indify that they mean it In my case i told my bf that friendship would not work between us. It just made him sad and he hoped that i would write him at some point. But it did not last for long, as already after about 2 weeks he was writing to me (I know I should not write to you, but...). So my point is that saying you do not want to be friends would not mean the total end and would not harm your possible future communications, but would probably even make them respect (and want) you more
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