robf1971 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 And your posts do reek of bitterness, . Interesting thought.. but as I say I seem to have turned my situation around in six months ish. So bitter or not, I may have something worth listening to.
Author highviolet Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 I don't think it's all about the OM dear. I don't even think it's about him at all to be honest, but also, this friendship with him isn't helping you or your marriage. You have a responsibility as a wife and a mother to defend your marriage and these types of thoughts/feelings you are having for this other man is a direct threat to your marriage. Don't be naive. Affairs begin from these types of things if some wouldn't call what you have going on already an emotional affair. Also, I understand that going back to work or school might be too expensive right now, but have you looked into even just getting out of the house with the kids or even taking up some hobby something that could be yours and yours alone? I also stress the fact that even as a stay at home mom, you need alone time, and time with other adults. It will drive you crazy sitting in the house all day with just the kids. I agree totally.
Author highviolet Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 Interesting thought.. but as I say I seem to have turned my situation around in six months ish. So bitter or not, I may have something worth listening to. Ok... Well I'm listening, that's what I posted here for.
worldgonewrong Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I just don't get it, why women are so quick to trash a man that loves them but can't handle it when that man meets someone new. It happened to me in my first marriage, I got the whole stupid ILBY speech and thrown out of my own home. About 8 months later I met someone else, when my STBXW at the time found out, she went over the high side, which had the effect of turning me off her even more. Seems like they've spent all this time convincing themselves "he's not a catch", and then when they have proof that you ARE, they get competitive.
robf1971 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 . I want to suggest a trial separation and see how I feel. Or in other words freedom to contact OM unincumbered by your hubby, using him as a fall back just in case things don't work out.
Author highviolet Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 Or in other words freedom to contact OM unincumbered by your hubby, using him as a fall back just in case things don't work out. Yes, I agree that probably went through my mind. But I do really want to sort out my feelings "unincumbered" by anyone, really. But regardless of how you see my intentions, that is not what I am doing anyway, as I already stated in my update. I am going to seek counseling and try to work out my/our issues that way without separating from my husband. So nyeh
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