twenty4seven Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Hey! I might aswell tell you the hole story, so: I fell for this girl in my class, and I can't get her out of my head. And since my confidence is completely destroyed from other things like the fact that i never even kissed a girl, I just gave up trying to get her. So we were good friends, we were talking alot, and se was open to me, and for the first time I felt I could trust a girl! So one day her bestfriend asked me: - "Can I ask you something?", I said yes, the question was: -" Do you like her?...", I said yes, cuz - if somebody already found out, there is not point denaying it. So the bestfriend told the girl I like her.... (suprise..) So now recently she had some friends over to sleep there, and I already knew one of them pretty good.. . So the next day I asked one of them: - "Did she tell you?", "That you like her?" -.-' So i knew that she had told her friends, but thats not bothering me at all. Whats bothering me is that I was so stupid that I had to ask the girl i like: - "How many have you told that I like you?" .. It took long time before an answere came, but it she wasn't talking, it was her X'boyfriend (which beat me up last week..) and he said: -"Take it easy man, now we shall enjoy ourselves a bit, peace out.." I don't know what to do, where to go, or anything... I'm stressed cuz of school, and can't consentrate on anything... Help? Sorry for my engish... tried my best.. Thanks
spiderowl Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Not entirely sure what you did that bothered you so much or why it bothered you. I would guess the ex thought you sounded a bit upset or tense about it, so that's why he said what he did. I think you need to relax and not make a thing of this at all. The girl wouldn't have known what to say, for fear of betraying her friends' confidence. She might also have felt embarassed. Does it really matter who told her what? She knows you like her now. That's a good thing as she'll have to think about that and if she feels the same way. If she does like you, she's likely to carry on being friendly and sweet to you. She will probably be happy to spend time alone with you and will be encouraging rather than distant. If she doesn't feel the same way, she might avoid you, avoid spending time alone with you, and she might drop hints that you should back off. Her friends may also say something to you, as a gentle warning not to take it further. I think you just have to listen out for what messages are coming back to you from various sources. If they conflict, then that's difficult but what matters is the message she is giving you herself. One thing though, if she knows you like her and, despite encouragement from her, you don't try to take it further by asking her out, then she'll think you are not interested after all. Knowing someone likes you raises the tension a bit and if they don't follow through, then things feel wrong. I think maybe you are feeling this rise in tension and a certain expectation. See how she reacts to gentle moves to spend more time with her. If she doesn't like you, she'll avoid you and remain distant. You would most likely experience this as finding it hard to get time alone with her and her being extremely busy all the time. However, you are in the awkward stage of not knowing how she feels at the moment so gently does it. Good luck!
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