TheShyIntrovert Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place.
Knittress Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. Yeah? So? What did you expect, a free counseling session from a professional that usually runs 200/hr? I agree there's some jerks and crazies running around LS, but then again this reflects REAL LIFE. It's more helpful to understand the world and people that are in it than to bury your head in the sand because what you see around you doesn't reflect your outlook or values. Anyway. Bye.
mo mo Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 this is coming from a shy introvert.. ha! why should we listen to you, you have no social skills... (if you don't see the irony in that comment, i'll explain it. You're probably a shy introvert in real life, so people think you are the quiet type, but you're probably quietly thinking how much better you are than everyone else, even though you have no social skills.) The best way to use this site is not to get direct advice or your issues, but to observe and see how the opposite thinks about certain things. Basically, it boils down to the fact that everyone has a level of insecurity about romantic relationships. That's the first thing you need to really understand if you want to earn the confidence needed to date someone.
ljcoburn Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. :lmao:hmmm I don't know how I will sleep tonight...At least the people on here are making an effort instead of "lurking" or more accurately JUDGING.
oaks Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I am done with this place. Thanks so much for letting us know.
fishtaco Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 This is the internet. Have you never been on the internet before? The point of LS is you get to see the view points of all kinds of people, whether you agree with them or not. THEN you make you own decision of what to do for yourself.
Anela Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 There were threads that were bothering me last Autumn, as well as a couple recently (I just shouldn't be here when I've dealt with a jerk, and more likely to end up PO'd), but I occasionally wish that I'd known about boards like this when I was younger.
somedude81 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 It is a strange occurrence. Despite my massive failings with women, I have been known to give advice. The key is that I would only give advice on really simple matters or ones that have a common sense solution.
K.K. Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 One time I tried to give my brother advice about his wife and he's like," girl... you've screwed up your own life, you actually think I'm going to take advice from YOU?" Kinda hurt my feelings. So I'm saying for the record... maybe my advice sucks. But it's with good intention to help.
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 The best advice given is from people going thru and having gone thru the same things that the people searching for answers are presently going thru... and AA works because it is drunks helping other drunks to stay sober...
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I'm guessing that the original post is supposed to be advice from the original poster
SmileFace Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Ha if you take advice given on LS, that is your fault. Sites like this are for you to get an opinion. Now listen to this! You listening? Then you can come up with a decision in your own... GASP!-GASP!-GASP!.... Surprising!
SmileFace Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I'm guessing that the original post is supposed to be advice from the original poster Yeah but he actually doesn't have a clue, shrugs.
Template Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. Welcome to the internetz, I hope you stay a while, because it is an entertaining medium. Seriously, you expect everyone to be perfect? Some of the most messed up people I know are college counselors and psychiatrists. Just because some people have a hard time following their own advice, doesn't make the advice wrong or invalid.
Trimmer Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. Oh, man... I know what happened. Your cable company hooked you up to the wrong Internet! Call them up and tell them that you want to connect to the other Internet, the one where all information is checked to make sure it is correct and accurate, forums have real experts who give away advice for free, and there are no trolls, flamewars, or spam. It costs a little more, but it's totally worth it. Oh, and there's no sarcasm, either...
Stung Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Oh, man... I know what happened. Your cable company hooked you up to the wrong Internet! Call them up and tell them that you want to connect to the other Internet, the one where all information is checked to make sure it is correct and accurate, forums have real experts who give away advice for free, and there are no trolls, flamewars, or spam. It costs a little more, but it's totally worth it. Oh, and there's no sarcasm, either... Yes, yes, I know, we're pointing out the obvious in this thread, etc. But man, this version of the inernet actually sounds pretty awesome to me. Sigh.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 Yikes, this is the first thread I am reading since I joined the forum! Not very encouraging I must say. Keep reading. I've been a member for about 8 months and this is may be the second thread out of the thousands I've posted in or read where someone with less than 20 posts decides to make a dramatic exit as if the world revolves around them. I'm totally serious--I can only remember one other person doing this (perhaps I missed a few but suffice it to say that this thing is rare).
SarcasticBlonde Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. Some of us may be able to give feedback on one situation but than need assistance in another. If you are "done" then posting this thread was a mute point.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 6, 2011 Posted March 6, 2011 K.K., I have a brother just like yours.... I tried many times to let him know his girlfriend has been cheating on him the entire 15 years they have been together.... but I am the 'screwed up' one and no one should listen to me, because I am not perfect and he is! I have met the men she cheated on him with and I know details... but hey, I'm just a sister who screwed up her life, so I don't know jack sh*t... I guess I also see and talk to ghosts! My brother is such a loser... if he could only see what everyone else sees!!! More power to him and his unfaithful, permanent loser girlfriend! Everyone in the family hates her... nor can they stand to be in his presence... he's such a pessimist... being exposed to him is like visiting the devil in hell for a few hours and praying you don't get stuck there! Almost the same thing happened to me. My brother was dating a girl about 6 months or so ago, and there were some major red flags (turns out she was cheating on her boyfriend with my brother). Every time I tried to explain this to my brother to get him to see what was going on he would say "well you've never had a girlfriend so what do you know?" I took a step back and let him figure it out on his own, which he did, but only after wasting more time with her. But I think the larger point is that no matter how badly we've done with our own lives, it is sometimes easier to figure out someone else's situation since we're removed from it and can see it from a different perspective. Sometimes that different perspective can make all the difference.
reservoirdog1 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I have been lurking on this forum for a few months and I have came to the realization that most here have no idea what they are talking about but they are doling out advice to others and then complaining in separate threads that they have been single for months on end, have terrible relationships etc. It is analogous to seeing a drunk person helping an even drunker person walk. I am done with this place. You'll be missed.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 If/When I do post about a personal issue on here, I really only look for advice from certain people. I'd say there's a blacklist in my mind of people whom I recognize are just plain stupid from reading their past threads, and I just ignore them or call out their stupidity. I don't expect expert advice. One thing that does bother me, is people who consider being in a relationship to be "successful". Just because you're with someone, doesn't mean you're smarter, better, or more successful than someone who is single. If the choice were to be single and looking or in a dysfunctional/problematic relationship, I'd clearly choose the single option. I don't feel a NEED to be in a relationship, but I found the right girl and I'm enjoying it. That doesn't make me better than the single people who are still looking, I consider myself more lucky than anything to have found someone so great and compatible. I went through my struggles like anyone else, and it was a journey. I learned a lot about dating, but mostly learned a lot about myself. I think people in this "google era" want the quick answer about the opposite sex and relationships, it's not that easy. You have to figure some things out for yourself. There's no preverbial "homework paper" to copy off of when it comes to this, every situation and person is different. Follow your gut, do what you think is right, and be true to yourself and you will end up on top in the end. The best and most simple words of wisdom I ever took for advice: Do what makes you happy.
fishtaco Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 How many ShyIntroverts does it take to change a light bulb? Just one. He holds the light bulb while the world revolves around him. Yeah, old joke, I know.
lenny Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 For me, these forums are a way to work through issues internally outloud ... and maybe catch a different perspective you haven't thought of before. I myself have loads of communication training, both for work as well as dealing with teenagers. I am very into self improvement and self awareness and trying to be the best I can be. I feel that I am a very good listener and quite level headed. I have opinions and like to try to help others. Also, when presented with other people's situations, you can explore how you feel you would react and without emotional involvement, examine what might be going on for the people involved in the situation. Prior to my latest relationship I had totally given up and decided I was happy being single till the end of my days so you could say I have a poor track record. With my current man I am able to use these skills I have acquired over the years and it's just amazing! That doesn't mean that sometimes I won't get confused or be puzzled as to what's going on in either my own or my man's head over things. This place gives me an avenue to figure things out FOR MYSELF.
jane100 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 If/When I do post about a personal issue on here, I really only look for advice from certain people. I'd say there's a blacklist in my mind of people whom I recognize are just plain stupid from reading their past threads, and I just ignore them or call out their stupidity. I laughed so much at this. OP Poor Shy Introvert - you know s/he has a point I think in some ways, I smiled when I read it!
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