carrie3107 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Simple question How do u keep everyone happy? Relationship 6 months now stay over at his 3 nights a week Tuesday Thursday and a Sunday. When my boyfriend doesnt have his child i stay over Friday and saturday as well I live with my parents due to a break of a previous relationship. She says I use the house as a hostel and come home, shower get changed and back out to my boyfriends. Or come home and do nothing. I came home on tuesday after arranging to go to the footie with xxx i walked in the house and started saying guess what she just said whatever so i didnt bother telling her what i was up 2 So after 2nites heated chat she said something about leaving the washing on the bed. "so i said so thats why ive upset u." "it turned into u dont do anything for us, u dont have time for us conversation, u dont have time for friends etc. Would be lovely for someone else to go do the town. Ur pushing us away etc, Ur pushing your friends away etc" I tried to tell her i was trying to tell her were i was going on tuesday but she just wasnt interested. I told her that i had asked my dad what i had done wrong, and i hadnt pushed my friends away they had pushed me way put she just doesnt want to listen. 1. Yes i had left the wet clothes on the bed. 2. Yes i have stopped texting my friends, but i was always the one to make first contact with friends finding out what everyone was up2. As soon as i have stopped making contact with friends no one has bothered texting me, and if i ask them they will say oh ive been busy etc 3. I would like to move out but i cant financially afford it, i am on a low wage and cannot afford to run a car and a flat at the same time, and at the moment the relationship is not at the point of moving in with each other Its just mad and im angry this should be a happy time.
Ms. Joolie Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Why do you think it's your job to keep everyone happy?
kinsey Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I don't think you need to make sure everyone else is happy, but I also think you should show respect and follow your parents' rules - helping out around the house and spending some time with them (family dinner or something?) would let them know that you appreciate them letting you stay with them when you're having financial difficulties.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I don't think you need to make sure everyone else is happy, but I also think you should show respect and follow your parents' rules - helping out around the house and spending some time with them (family dinner or something?) would let them know that you appreciate them letting you stay with them when you're having financial difficulties. Agreed. OP, legally speaking, you're a guest. Your parents, if they wanted, have the right to kick you out of the house for being a non-paying tenant. I don't think the problem here is making everyone happy, the problem is that you're not happy in general. Your broke, working minimum wage, and I'm guessing you're a woman in her late 20's to early 30s with no direction in life. Can being with your boyfriend and having a relationship really fix the bigger probems? Or as you using him as an escapegoat?
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