SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I woke up this morning and got all dolled up for the heck of it. The sun is out ,so I am bound to feel good. I decided to walk to work just to soak in some sun. Anyway the point of the thread is that doesn't matter how good I feel about myself ,I still yearn for a partner.Not to get confused with "wanting" a partner. I just feel like I came a long way. Before when I was dating and something ended. I will find myself to the nearest dating site to full that want. Even if it was just to have someone to full that void. However I don't feel like that anymore. I still yearn but don't need or want a partner. It is like I am ready to wait. It is just refreshing so I felt like sharing. I don't mind being alone is what I am saying. I like this feeling Hope everyone is experiencing good weather. However yearning may be bad - I am not sure.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Technically, want and yearn is the same. At least according to my thesaurus, it is.... However, the connotation of yearning learns towards " desire" and want can be replaced by needs. My guess is, you don't need a man because the idea of an SO is not a priority, but it is still nice to have a someone to come home to?
Author SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Technically, want and yearn is the same. At least according to my thesaurus, it is.... However, the connotation of yearning learns towards " desire" and want can be replaced by needs. My guess is, you don't need a man because the idea of an SO is not a priority, but it is still nice to have a someone to come home to? Can we not be technical for the sake of my ignorance... I mean it more as you feel for a partner . Where as with want you feel you need it. Even though I know need and want isn't the same thing but the sake of this coversation... thank you :-). Yeah it more yearning for someone to compliment you but not to complete you - if that makes sense.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Can we not be technical for the sake of my ignorance... I mean it more as you feel for a partner . Where as with want you feel you need it. Even though I know need and want isn't the same thing but the sake of this coversation... thank you :-). Yeah it more yearning for someone to compliment you but not to complete you - if that makes sense. Haha sorry, just couldn't resist. What's stopping you from casually dating then? It's not reasonable to place importance in one man, but I doubt it would hurt to date several men to see which one fit your mold.
Author SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 No problem, I would have mentioned it if I was you . Where did I say I wasn't dating? I am not but I dont think I said it,shrugs. I don't know if I can casually date. Besides the time problem, I can't focus on dating more than one guy. It feels like a competition to me. I just can't deal with it. I like the idea of courting - rather than dating. haha, just me learning about myself. That is probably why I end up with these threads. hmm
Cee Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I think yearning is normal. I very badly wanted a boyfriend after being single for so many years. I didn't feed that energy by trying too hard with dating. Instead, I channeled that want into adventure, travel, and parties. Sure, I still wanted a boyfriend, but I want to live every moment to its fullest. For me yearning is a signal to keep trying. When somebody cool asked me out, without hesitation I said yes. And we've been together ever since.
Author SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 I think yearning is normal. I very badly wanted a boyfriend after being single for so many years. I didn't feed that energy by trying too hard with dating. Instead, I channeled that want into adventure, travel, and parties. Sure, I still wanted a boyfriend, but I want to live every moment to its fullest. For me yearning is a signal to keep trying. When somebody cool asked me out, without hesitation I said yes. And we've been together ever since. Yeah, I am focusing my energy on my self and self improvement. I still want a boyfriend - but it isn't something that needs to be my main focus. I find when I do that, I end up settling for the first person whos comes along or even ignoring some huge red flags. Congrads on your relationship - and your avatar makes me giggle.
Author SmileFace Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 Did you know 70% of black women are single? AMAZING Yes yes yes and you are missing a chromosome and like to get fly like a G6.
Sabali Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I thought the word "yearning" was only used in songs.
mo mo Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Yes yes yes and you are missing a chromosome and like to get fly like a G6. I was going to propose to you and tell you I won the powerball
Nexus One Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Did you know 70% of black women are single? AMAZING If that's true, what's the reason for that?
mo mo Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 If that's true, what's the reason for that? the answers are all here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_x6lrRnOZmg&feature=related
Author SmileFace Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 I thought the word "yearning" was only used in songs. Well we can think of this as a non-technical song like thread.... good? Can't believe you posted the link Mo!
Sabali Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Well we can think of this as a non-technical song like thread.... good? I guess but now I have these damn songs in my head.
Author SmileFace Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 I guess but now I have these damn songs in my head. Well keep them in your head - if you sing them your mom will hear. We don't want that ... do we now?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I want a partner, too. Even though I know I am financially not able to date, and since I am out of work and moving back home, I am not the most attractive to girls. Add in that I'm an unkissed virgin at 28, and I am a loser. But the truth is that everyone deserves love, but not everyone gets it. Wanting and deserving are two different things. Some of us manage to get love, and some of us deserve it, but are just left wanting. And that's the way the world works.
Sabali Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Well keep them in your head - if you sing them your mom will hear. We don't want that ... do we now? Oh please. Mom has heard a lot worse coming from down here. Trust me. The sounds of legs turning into ear muffs is only pleasant to the one that are wearing them. Poor mom... My ears are getting cold, Smileface.
Author SmileFace Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 Oh please. Mom has heard a lot worse coming from down here. Trust me. The sounds of legs turning into ear muffs is only pleasant to the one that are wearing them. Poor mom... My ears are getting cold, Smileface. Haha, this made me smile.... :lmao::lmao: Forget ear muffs ... we can do a full hat
Sabali Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Haha, this made me smile.... :lmao::lmao: Forget ear muffs ... we can do a full hat See, I knew you were fun!
florence of suburbia Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Yearning is the basis for any story worth telling. The protagonist attempts to satisfy her yearning despite ever-mounting obstacles. So you are a hero.
Author SmileFace Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 Yearning is the basis for any story worth telling. The protagonist attempts to satisfy her yearning despite ever-mounting obstacles. So you are a hero. Haha, you can't say I am never entertained on LS.... I this place sometimes and that will be shero - thank you very much.. lool
Knittress Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I told some people that having an advanced degree and career prospects were great and all, but what I wanted most out of life was to be in a happy marriage. And I got looked at like I had two heads and a lot of lectures about, "only you can make yourself happy..." blah, blah, UGH. I've been single and largely celibate and dateless for years now, so you'd think I wouldn't get the 'desperate woman' lecture for just being honest. For some reason society has this urge to pathologize normal...
jane100 Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 Its a sweet thread. Its sweet to yearn for love. Admitting to oneself what one wants is a first step. Who knows what will come after that ....
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