freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Monday, I asked this woman in my college class for her number. After, I got her number she said maybe we can hang out during spring break, which is next week. I texted her the same night (8 hours later), and she responded back. Then we texted on Tuesday, and it was a great casual conversation. I asked her what she was doing for lunch the following day, but she said she was busy and asked me for another date. I said I don't know yet, and I told her I had to leave so I said goodnight to her. And she said goodnight to me. Now I texted her on Wednesday, but she has not responded yet. I am being patient about this, I know she is busy with college and work now. Maybe I came off as too clingy or needy. We have been talking since January, everything is going fine she likes to hang out with me at college. I sit with her a lot and talked to her. She seemed really interested in me, because she wanted me to sit and talk with her. I have not called her yet, maybe she wants me to call to make plans with her. Or she either lost interest with or is too busy. I don't know now, should I just wait for her to text me back. Is she playing hard to get now. Should I call her tonight.
czen Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Wait till she texts you back, or the next time you see her in real life before you make contact again. Sending any more messages would make you seem needy.
2sunny Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 call... the voice tell everything a text can't tell you. you missed the opportunity to set something up when she said this: but she said she was busy and asked me for another date. you missed the opportunity here: I said I don't know yet, and I told her I had to leave so I said goodnight to her. ask for a specific date/time that works for HER! then plan an outing! but - call! no text! or ask in person.
Author freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Wait till she texts you back, or the next time you see her in real life before you make contact again. Sending any more messages would make you seem needy. Alright, so are you sure about this. I will not see her in person for a long time, i don't have college next week. So i was thinking i should call her, it will be a while before i see her in real life.
Author freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 call... the voice tell everything a text can't tell you. you missed the opportunity to set something up when she said this: you missed the opportunity here: ask for a specific date/time that works for HER! then plan an outing! but - call! no text! or ask in person. I know i missed the opportunity before that was all my fault, i should of asked her in person the last time i saw her. When should i call her, should i call her tonight or tomorrow. I would really like to hang out with her this weekend, if she is still interested in me.
2sunny Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I know i missed the opportunity before that was all my fault, i should of asked her in person the last time i saw her. When should i call her, should i call her tonight or tomorrow. I would really like to hang out with her this weekend, if she is still interested in me. call and ask what she'd prefer to do - ask when is a good time for her? if you need to - adjust YOUR schedule if you intend to make her a priority.
buzzie2 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I would call her. If she is interested she should call you back within 3 days. If she doesn't call you back then I would move on.
Author freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 call and ask what she'd prefer to do - ask when is a good time for her? if you need to - adjust YOUR schedule if you intend to make her a priority. Thanks for the good advice, i will call her tonight to see if she is interested.
Author freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 I would call her. If she is interested she should call you back within 3 days. If she doesn't call you back then I would move on. I have heard of the three day rule before, but i believe you are right about that. If she is interested in me, she would return my phonecall within three days.
alphamale Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 (edited) Is she playing hard to get now. Should I call her tonight. dude, you're firmly entrenched in the dreaded "friends zone" She seemed really interested in me, because she wanted me to sit and talk with her if she was really interested in you then you'd be having sex with her Edited March 4, 2011 by alphamale
Author freedaman Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 dude, you're firmly entrenched in the dreaded "friends zone" if she was really interested in you then you'd be having sex with her I see what you mean, but i started out talking to her as a friend. I was not rushing into things, plus i talked to her a lot before i asked for her number. I am not sure about the sex part, because she could like me without doing anything sexual yet. Plus i don't think she knows me well enough to go that far, we are not even dating yet. So you really think i will remain in the friendzone.
Saphira Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 yes i agree with everyone else. you should call her. spring break is coming up. so she should have some free time. plan something then. unless you wont be around for spring break. But still call her and set something up. And if you do decide to call her. keep us informed on whats going on! =] hope everything goes well.
blackmagik Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 So you really think i will remain in the friendzone. The friend zone is like a black hole. Once you get into that classification, there is no going back.
Author freedaman Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 The friend zone is like a black hole. Once you get into that classification, there is no going back. I heard that before, it is true most of the time. But there could be a few exceptions to that rule. yes i agree with everyone else. you should call her. spring break is coming up. so she should have some free time. plan something then. unless you wont be around for spring break. But still call her and set something up. And if you do decide to call her. keep us informed on whats going on! =] hope everything goes well. Thanks for the encouragement, since everyone is saying call her. I think i should just call her and leave her message if she doesn't respond. I will keep everyone informed on how it goes. Hopefully my next response could have a happy ending to it.
alphamale Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I see what you mean, but i started out talking to her as a friend. I was not rushing into things, plus i talked to her a lot before i asked for her number. I am not sure about the sex part, because she could like me without doing anything sexual yet. Plus i don't think she knows me well enough to go that far, we are not even dating yet. So you really think i will remain in the friendzone. hmm typical nice guy behaviour
AverageJoe Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I see what you mean, but i started out talking to her as a friend. I was not rushing into things, plus i talked to her a lot before i asked for her number. I am not sure about the sex part, because she could like me without doing anything sexual yet. Plus i don't think she knows me well enough to go that far, we are not even dating yet. So you really think i will remain in the friendzone. You might still have a chance if you call. Knock it off with the sissy ass texting. PM me the number I will call her, and you text. In the meantime we'll see who comes out first.
Author freedaman Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 i dont think it would be a good idea to call her, if shes been responsive up until now something may have happened as im quit sure she got your text. wait it out a day or two then text her again. she may be seeing another person and has you on the bakc burner Are you sure about this, i have people telling me to call her. But you think i should wait to text or call her again. You might still have a chance if you call. Knock it off with the sissy ass texting. PM me the number I will call her, and you text. In the meantime we'll see who comes out first. Well that would be interesting to see, but i get your point though. I should call instead of texting her. hmm typical nice guy behaviour Well nothing has went wrong yet, except for her not responding.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 5, 2011 Posted March 5, 2011 I already know you blew it with her. Women who are interested will text you back. YOu were too nice all the times that you were actually in contact with her. Next time you get this opportunity with another girl, flirt with her right away along with the conversation. YOU HAVE TO FLIRT. Doesnt have to be overly sexual talk, but it cant be boring either. Tease her and flirt with her, or else you will not turn her on with your conversation.
Author freedaman Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 I already know you blew it with her. Women who are interested will text you back. YOu were too nice all the times that you were actually in contact with her. Next time you get this opportunity with another girl, flirt with her right away along with the conversation. YOU HAVE TO FLIRT. Doesnt have to be overly sexual talk, but it cant be boring either. Tease her and flirt with her, or else you will not turn her on with your conversation. I will keep that in mind the next i talk to a woman. I should of just did some friendly flirts with her, to show i like as more then a friend. You are right about that if a woman is interested she will text you back, but i willl give more try and see if she is interested before i move on.
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