ubetcha Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 My Exboyfriend texted me to say "I am truly sorry for all that I did to you. I hope things are well, I miss you (petname)." He cheated on me and left me for another woman 6 months ago. We were together 6 years. He has sent a couple messages like this in the past couple months but I have never replied to any of them.
Perplexed81 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Ubetcha: having done this in the past, seems like the women he left you with turned out to not be what he wants so they are inevitably going to break up and he is reaching out to you for a possible reconciliation. Those texts are usually always 100% geniune with or without alcohol involved. I'm gonna go against the grain and say text him back, I know I wish mine would. But only text him back if you personally want him back, otherwise don't. My 2 cents.
smudge21 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Question is, do you want him back in your life after what he did? If you would like to have another chance, then text back, but keep it simple and a bit cold - no love in it, if you get me. If he comes back then it's on your terms, you hold all the cards now, make that clear to him! The last thing you want to do is give him the signal that you're letting him off cheating as that will be like a green light for him to do it again...
Perplexed81 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Thats true, what smudge said, i left that part out in my previous post. Cheating is unacceptable, you either LET IT GO or it will HAUNT YOU throughout any reconcilation and will not work whatsoever. I had an ex cheat on me, we broke up, i tried to make it work by trying to let it bother me that she was with another man. What happened? we broke up for good, I just couldn't deal with the fact that she had done it and knew would never be together again.
TurboGirl Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 He wants you to acknowledge the text... that way he won't feel quite as bad about cheating on you. It's all about HIM and his guilt. He's fishing. Don't reply. Forget the guy & move on.
timchambo Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 He wants you to acknowledge the text... that way he won't feel quite as bad about cheating on you. It's all about HIM and his guilt. He's fishing. Don't reply. Forget the guy & move on. Copy paste? JK, but really this seems to the typical response. It might be true, but going from what the guy up above said it may be genuine. I know a friend who cheated and regretted it. Still wishes she would have taken him back. She moved on and jumped into a marriage which has left her unhappy. use your head here and proceed with caution.
willowthewisp Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 It's either he wants to relieve his own guilt or the women he cheated on you with didn't work out and he wants you back. Do you really want hime back, 6 years together and he cheated on you? You can do better hunny.
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