Im heartbroken

[joojoobear]

please help everyone;

 

hello everyone, this is my first post here, ive been just reading up on forums because i am so sad and i dont know who to talk to and i feel so heartbroken.

 

so, ive been with this girl for about 3 years now, and we were ALWAYS in a LDR (about 5 hour) and last year, she graduated college, and i am still in college, she then moved to another spot which is still 5 hour away from where i goto college. The good thing is, whenever we have vacation, we go back to our hometown and she lives very close to me so we have alot of bonding time during the vacations. We broke up once last year because she said i didnt care for her, and i can see why she was thinking that, because i took her for granted, so i begged her for another chance, and ever since she goes to grad school (starting about 6 months ago) ive been going to see her atleast twice a month and things have been going GREAT.

 

Now, the problem is, i am graduating in may, and she knows that i wont be near her anymore and she still has 1 year left in Grad school, so i suggested that she transfers to a sschool near our hometown, so she did apply and couple weeks ago she found out she was not accepted. Things have been going great, and all of a sudden, couple days ago she txt me and says shes depressed, and i call her and all of a sudden she starts to cry and tell me that i am the person who treated her the best in her life and she knows it, but that she wanted to keep her options open and told me lets break up. ever since this happened about 3 days ago, she still talks to me and says she wants to be friends, but she doesnt talk to me like the way she used to. I said i wanted to go see her this week and she said not to come.

 

I know shes not cheating on me because she has NO friends whatsoever ovr there and i guarantee she is not cheatin on me. And she still doesnt want me to go see her, but before she said she wants to "break up" we had spring break plans and i paid for reservations for the hotel and everything. I asked her what we should do for the spring break, and she told me to try to cancel it, (which i cant) so she said she will go with me "as friends"..

 

what does this mean? i know she is depressed because she didnt get into the school she wanted to, and she knows our relationship is comming to an end because i am leaving this place soon and we will be on the differnt parts of this country. But she only has one year left,

 

I really love this girl with all my heart, and she wont act the same to me anymore. I dont know what to do..i really do not want to lose her.. so i told her i will move in with her right after i graduate and when i said that she seemed happy, but told me her parents would not allow this, and im just afraid of losing this girl. do you think things can change once i see her next week for spring break? (she says were only going as friends) but we wil have a good 10 days together,

 

she also changed her facebook status to single.. i dont know why she is doing this, is it because she wants this to happen because it will eventually happen ? i know she is depressed and all because she has nof riends and she repeadetly tells me the gradschool she is going to is NOT the right place for her, and whenever i went to go see her every twice a week she feels so happy with me. I spent valentines with her and she was SO happy, it went well for up until 3 days ago. All of a sudden she stops calling me or txtin me like how she used to.

 

She would tell me she found someone else if she did, she doesnt lie to me..

PLEASE HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I have no one to talk to

[Omei]

Just sound's like she's playing games,

I used to be like this when I was younger.

 

If she really has no friends and you're positive she's not cheating you're all she has and the fact that she's still coming to see you, I would say her break-up "let's go as friends" is a bluff and she likes to sulk in her sorrow's and add to them!

 

I'm saying this because I used to do the same when I was younger not proud of it

 

It's a way of making you feel as unhappy as her.

 

I bet when you two meet up it will be all loves and laugh's from there.

 

(And if it turns out to be non of this then I got's nothin)

 

I would tell her to decide what she want's and quit jerking you around because one of these days you might take her breakups seriously.

Edited March 5, 2011 by Omei

[Foxinsocks]

I agree with Omei, sounds like she could be after a great deal of attention, some massive display of how much you love her to reassure her which is not fair on you.

 

I'm tempted to say tell her to grow up, it might seem impossible to her that you can continue for the last year of her school if you are so far away, perhaps she is feeling insecure but her sulking is childish and hurtful.

 

She sounds miserable and lonely and you get to go back to your hometown...she is pushing you for a reaction, reassurance maybe? I wonder if you stopped contacting her what she would do? or maybe if you said you now could cancel springbreak.

 

She is manipulating you.

[creighton0123]

Find another friend to go on spring break with you.

 

This is a very common hot/cold that can ruin both relationships and long distance relationships. Ask yourself... don't you deserve somebody where the relationship seems simply... easier?