klynnr Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 Here's the situation: I've been dating my boyfriend for a year. He was engaged about 4 years , but his ex-fiance left him 5 days before the wedding. He still has the engagement ring that he gave her. Lately, he's been mentioning the ring alot (he wants to trade it for something else). Is it possible that he's trying to ask what I think about marraige without asking directly? Should I suggest using a part of that ring in another ring if we get engaged (considering what happened in his past)? [font=courier new][/font][color=darkblue][/color]
cutiebabe Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 Its perfectly natural for him to want to keep the ring as his ex-fiance obviously hurt him and mayb he wants to keep a memory. Mayb ur letting your own thinking (u want to marry him mayb) misinterpret what hes really saying. If ur not sure, ask him. Mayb he's juz finally decided to move on and wants to get rid of the ring in order to move on (eg; some ppl after break ups still keep photos or emails from them and when they're ready to get over them they get rid of the things they've been holding onto). Using the ring for part of ur engagement is a serious thing to think about, you have to make sure that down the track you wont feel like ur second best etc... Like i said, talk to him about ur thoughts, you wont know unless you ask.
wildturkey Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I have been in several LTR's. Everyone is different. One thing for sure is that all have a past and at the same time so do I. Come to terms and talk about the ring. Do you want to talk about marriage? Getting a new ring by convertion that is, using his as a down payment is nothing bad. Gets rid of the ring. Or plain no! But be ready to say something if you decide to talk. You are not second best. He just has a past he may be wanting to let go because he now has you.
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