LDR over but cant stop the love and feel like things need to change back!

[brokenboy90]

I was going out with my ex for 3 years we spent the first year and a half in the same town then moved to separate universities and spent large part of the next year and a half apart. Things always seemed great we never argued until the last couple of months and that was mainly me getting frustrated as i sensed things were wrong but she wouldnt say. Things finally came to an end when i went to visit her in December she seemed off the whole time and finally admitted she hadnt felt right for months. The excuses I have had so far are she didnt feel the same (but has since told me she still loves me and does think about me), the distance was hard and she wants to do grown up things on her own. I dont understand how i can have so much love for someone and they dont feel the same, I have said i would be willing to do all the travelling to make things work (as previously i was selfish and made her visit me, but have realized this and admitted to her), and as for grown up things i am pretty mature and when we were together we were so comfortable that we never worried what the other was doing and had total trust, the only thing we didnt do apart was kiss and sleep with other people.

 

Since breaking up 3 months ago i spend every idle second thinking about her. I even arranged to have meaningful gifts sent to her home, work and university address on valentines day, but they didnt go down well. I have since said i accept we cant be together at the moment but there is no reason we shouldnt be able to talk on the phone every so often just to have a general chat, but she appears reluctant to find time to speak to me these days, which does not seem like her, but yet i feel i cant be alone in this love!

[anneel]

my friend, I am also going through the same problem. I know its hard. I don't know about your cases, but generally when the women find their future insecure and the externalities, they tend to strain due to the pressure of a peers. If there is a relationship at all, then it is worth fighting for, otherwise you would be just fight a lost battle. No point in arguing with her now, give her space and time to reconsider you. But sorry, I don't normally see it happening. It may sound hard, but thats what is to life? You would become a better individual from now on and start considering these hard facts before in your next relationship. As the things stand right now, give her space and of course time. Dust will settle down in some months or so. Don't argue with her, don't contact with her during that time. Improve yourself by putting yourself in her place, re-analyse your situation again, find trust in yourself, find out whether it will work or not, and other issues with a calm mind.

I wish life has its own ways, sometimes its for good, you would never know now..