dy.lanea Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 (edited) I've lurked here on and off for several years I'm a 20 year old guy. I've had a conversation with someone on and off for past 10 days or so on a forum and I'm developing a crush on them? They live pretty far away, I'm moving for school this September and they would be not incredibly far from me then. I know nothing about them actually, in fact I don't even know their name, or what they look like. They are the equivalent of an avatar to me. I find it really nice to talk to them though. I casually brought up facebook and that they could add me, they explained they were not sure about adding someone they do not know personally and explained how they are a little cautious with privacy. Their friends don't all get along, so they need to watch what they say. Fair enough. Anyways, should I tell them I want to get to know them better? I defiantly "believe" they are worth knowing more. Or should I just drop it. It makes me feel silly, but I don't see harm in being honest. Just idk, pretty sure I would run for the hills if someone on the other end of things did this. I'm 99.93% sure I'm nobody. Could all be bs too? *** A few additional Details I don't even know if they are a guy or girl. They consider them selves to be bi-gender and enjoy being androgynous. At first I thought they were a guy, then piecing some things they said together I thought they might actually be a girl? As well they consider them selves to like more feminine then masculine people. I fit that bill, but I'm a guy Either way, I've been pretty confused about sexuality myself for past while. Def not straight. TLDR; I want to get to know someone more I started talking to on an online forum not long ago. I think I should let them know. Your thoughts? Edited March 3, 2011 by dy.lanea
xpaperxcutx Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 How about exchanging pictures? I never give out my fb to people online but I have no problem doing a pic exchange as long as I am aware they have no other motive for wanting my picture.
Author dy.lanea Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 How about exchanging pictures? I never give out my fb to people online but I have no problem doing a pic exchange as long as I am aware they have no other motive for wanting my picture. Well I showed them a video of me flipping threw this portfolio I'm applying to an animation program with. So they have seen me. When they explained there feelings about adding me on facebook I told them I more or less was just curious what they looked like. Have not heard back from them yet, but usually been a few days between our correspondence which I think is a good thing.
Author dy.lanea Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 (edited) Very easy to get a crush online in forums or any place that groups tend to stay and become pen-pals. I developed a crush in 2004 on IMDB that became love within a year. It was an unfortunate waste of time yet memories of someone I have never met that branded into my heart like no one else will ever again. It's hard stuff, but some make it work. Just try not to give yourself to much....you have to control your emotions and if it feels strong and yo ufeel you're slipping into it to much to fast....back out. Don't give yourself 100% emotionally involved until you meet for real. A lesson that marked the start of my downhill spiral and relationship forum career. It can be a nice thing, but also a dangerous path if you do not contol your emotions well. Good luck, bud Yeah, it was on a GBLT support thread on this forum. There is lots of cool people on that thread. It's been very helpful to me. Actually it was interesting how you said that about emotions. I do tend to feel strongly for people awfully fast. For the longest time I fought it and wished I could just be slower, I felt I was wrong for it. But I think that's just not me. I find not letting my feelings just simmer to long gets me hurt a lot less too. Yes, I have had the same similar experiences as you with people online. I'm much more stable now then I have been in past though haha!!! Edited March 3, 2011 by dy.lanea
Author dy.lanea Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Anyways it's not right that I think wanting to know someone a little better is weird. Even if it's online. I know what I'm going to do, thanks for looking!
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