Cluelessaboutthis Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 (edited) a lil background: Me and my girl were together for 8 months. The first 6 were fantastic. Calling on both ends all the time talking about nothing, great sex the whole deal. There was a period of 3 weeks we were apart for family reasons but still kept in constant contact. I had personal tragedy in my life right at the end of that time and that stress with the stress of other factors caused her to fall into almost a depression and begin to resent my need of her at that time. (I don't want to give to much away in fear she may find this). I have gone over it and I wish she could have been there more for me but at the same time with her outside pressures I can understand while she felt smothered. Where I Stand now: She came to me one day and was not herself so I pushed her as to why. She broke down told me she's not feeling me right now. But it wasn't just me she didn't want to do anything at all. Go out with friends nothing. She said it was because she felt I was smothering her the last month even though she knew that was not my intention. I asked her if she still loved me she said she didn't know but that she would in a way always love me. I asked her if she wanted to break up she said she didn't know so I offered a break. I asked for some rules she said no calling at night but every once and a while to see how the person is doing is ok. I asked how long and because of school pressures she wasn't sure how long she would need. She said could be two days, could be a week, could be a month. She asked for a hug and kissed me saying have a nice weekend. Now: The truth is I love her and its been a week of NC through the phone but I see her briefly in school (as it is unavoidable) almost daily during the week. I say Hi and try to make small/brief conversation just how is everything nice day blah blah blah to keep it from being completely awkward because I do miss talking to her but don't want to pressure her. I don't think there is anyone else because of her crazy busy schedule but how can I really know. by accident in the wonderful world of text messaging a text I had sent her a few days before about driving in snow that joked about making it home alive made it through to her phone during the period of NC and she immediately responded asking what that meant and when I explained she said oh ok and thats it (I took it as she was worried I was doing something stupid). Because I didn't have a timetable I emailed her saying that my intentions were the same and she said she still also didn't know and that we would talk when we saw each other again. I have seen her in passing at school or am required to sit next to her in one class but I definitely don't want to bring up a serious discussion so soon. I'm hoping she will bring the conversation to me as we really left it open. What I'm asking: Has anyone had a situation like this or comparable. I know the right thing is to give her what she wants, space but I'm afraid running into her at school will keep reminding her about the break and not give her the time to reflect on when we were good and she enjoyed being with me. Its unavoidable and she says she wants me in her life but I'm just trying not to bring up anything relationship wise and acting like the break is not bothering me and trying to focus. But I'd be lying if I said my heart doesn't skip a beat every time I see her. There is also an age difference of 5 years so she may just be at a different point in her life. She said she doesn't hate me and wanted me to know that as I have had nothing but good intentions for her but she doesn't feel it for me anymore. Sorry this was so long but I wanted to lay it all out for the best advice. Thanks for your support, Talking and reading answers is what I find is helping me most. I still don't sleep through the night because when I wake up she is the first thought on my mind and I can't help it. The other problem is I am surrounded by weddings, very few single friends. Its tough. I really believed she was the one and I'm hoping by giving her the space she wanted she will come back although I don't want to count on it. Truth is she became my best friend and losing that hurts the most. Edited March 3, 2011 by Cluelessaboutthis forgot something
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