seaberry86 Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I recently got back into the dating scene. I'm 24. I started dating a 29 year old. The first date went really well. We both got along and clicked from the beginning. I went to his house to watch a movie and wound up crashing because it was late and I was tired. That's when it got weird. He didn't just cuddle, he smothered. Then he allowed his five year old son to sleep in the same room. I knew he had finished with a nasty custody battle with his son and someone had recently tried to break into his house, so I blamed it on that. The second date was when it got stranger. He introduced me to his mother and then told me that he was afraid of pushing me away and started crying. Part of me understands that it's hard for him because he worries about losing his son and he has a lot of baggage because of that. I want to be there for him because he is a really nice guy and I like him, but I'm not sure of how to approach the situation and things are moving way to fast for me.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I recently got back into the dating scene. I'm 24. I started dating a 29 year old. The first date went really well. We both got along and clicked from the beginning. I went to his house to watch a movie and wound up crashing because it was late and I was tired. That's when it got weird. He didn't just cuddle, he smothered. Then he allowed his five year old son to sleep in the same room. I knew he had finished with a nasty custody battle with his son and someone had recently tried to break into his house, so I blamed it on that. The second date was when it got stranger. He introduced me to his mother and then told me that he was afraid of pushing me away and started crying. Part of me understands that it's hard for him because he worries about losing his son and he has a lot of baggage because of that. I want to be there for him because he is a really nice guy and I like him, but I'm not sure of how to approach the situation and things are moving way to fast for me. What's the problem? Just tell him what you just typed in bold. Why can't you just communicate with him and tell him what you're feeling. It'll save a lot of confusion, pain, or heartache if you just be honest with each other. I'm sure you'll feel a lot better too.
Cee Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 What's the problem? Just tell him what you just typed in bold. Why can't you just communicate with him and tell him what you're feeling. It'll save a lot of confusion, pain, or heartache if you just be honest with each other. I'm sure you'll feel a lot better too. I agree with this 100%. An honest and respectful conversation with this man is the only solution, imo. If you can't have an adult dialogue with him, then it's best to walk away.
lululucy Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 No one else thinks it's strange that you met his mother on the second date and he cried to you?? I'd run. Too many red flags -- he is not emotionally stable and I don't think you could have a healthy relationship come out of this situation.
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