My ex girlfriend said she would NEVER give me a second chance. Is it time to move on?

[shawn923]

LONG READ

 

Ok... We only dated about 3 months, but we both fell in love and things were AMAZING. We are both in college, going to the same school. Things were perfect in my opinion, but one day my controlling behavior, and me being too insecure became too much for her and she left. I felt HORRIBLE. I had lost probably the best thing in my life at the time. And to make matters worse, i begged and begged and begged for her back. All attempts failed of course. That only drove me even more depressed. So as a last resort, I ignored her for a few days, and went ALL OUT on valentines day. Surprising her with a diamond necklace, bear, chocolate, and a note basically pouring my heart out and telling her I miss her and asking her to just open her mind to the possibility of us ever getting back together. This turned out to be DEADLY. She returned my gifts, and let it be known there would no NO CHANCE she'd ever give me another chance. She said she doesnt give second chances, so once its over, its over. And shes said that a number of times, making it clear she doesnt want to be with me. BUT... what caused our breakup was not the fact that i hurt her. I never hurt her. I didnt cheat or hit her ever, which are some things i can consider are good reasons u wouldnt give a second chance... All i did was act selfishly, something ive owned up to and agreed to work on. Its a problem that i KNOW i can fix, yet she said she can not give me a second chance over this... This makes me soooooo frustrated and depressed at the same time...

 

sooooo, I let it all go, and decided to erase her out my life after she returned my gifts. After 3 days... she texts me. saying she still exists and that she feels like **** over the way things happened. I told her i agreed with the breakup, and we can go our separate ways, and that our timing was just wrong. No hard feelings, just accepting it is what it is. (even though i cried later that night and still do occasionally:lmao:) SO.... obviously she told me she doesnt wanna be with me, but cant seem to let me go. It gives me mixed signals. She told me she never give me a second chance, but I REALLY want her back. I really feel shes my soulmate. I dont know what to do cuz she acts like she's scared to lose me as a friend and walk into another girls arms, but then again i remember she said ill never have a second chance... Neither of us are dating right now. So im in a heavy dilenma. My heart has to get her back, i cant see myself being with nobody else. So do i forget about her and cut her out my life? Or keep hope alive in the back of my head, because the crime i did wasnt all that huge to begin with?

 

Oh and i returned the bear to her because she liked it. Bad move? We still text and see eachother ramdomly thru school... and shes pretty flirtacious the one time we were alone, but with her friends shes acts stuck up... and whenever i mention our break up even a little bit she gets upset quickly...

 

oh and just today she asked for her scarf back, the only thing i have left of her. and she wants it tmr and when i asked what she was doin, she said she was with her ex from before me, but it was strictly friendly.... although im thinkin maybe dats made up n she might have said that just to get me jealous, but i really dont know. so please people, i need help!

[turokturok5]

Basically what i've come to learn, is that if she loves you, she'll come back and want to sort things out no matter what you did. If she is feeling gulity about the break-up and you go to her, tell her where you went wrong and everything and she MIGHT take you back, it still won't work out. She wouldn't of dumped you if she loved you, if she takes you back after you talked to her first it won't be long before she breaks you again. The only chance she'll come back and have a healthy relationship is if she comes to you.

[alphamale]

the train has left the station

[shawn923]

Well im at a point RIGHT NOW where my heart wants her, and mind does not. I already lost my pride and did everything possible to try to get her back. Everything but NC. I havent been able to keep up NC more then 2 days since our breakup a month ago. Either because she txts me, i txt her, or i see her randomly at school. So how should I go about NC? Do i even do it? Cuz its really the only thing i havent done. And everything ive done so far is wrong, so this got to be right i guess...

 

And i mean i can go NC with no problem, i can hide my depression rather well. Just put up nothin but happy fb statuses and never run into her at school...

[turokturok5]

dude be thankful that she is texting you. It's been 1 month since my girlfriend dumped me, she cried and begged me to still be friends, yet she hasn't tried to contact me in any form, but always texts my best mate