FaithInTheDark Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I have been seein this man for about 2 months. I was feeling confussed about where our relationship was going so finally I had "the talk" with him and asked if we were exclusive and stuff. his response was: Yes, that he would be proud to have me at his side and we could even put it on facebook. I know i'm his girlfriend, he has said it before. I was thinking about changing my facebook relationship status but I dont think it really matters. Our realationship is real and we like each other. I dont really think facebook should make everything so official. but I noticed on his facebook it still says single and it feels kinda werid since hes not. I dont know. Im not hung up over it...should i bring it up to him.?.mostly i am just curious on someone elses opinion on this subject. thanks
blackwidow290 Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 my last bf changed his status on fb from single a month after he had asked me to be exclusive. funny enough.. he changed it the night i hung out with all of his friends and there were photos of us together posted on his wall.. who knows what guys are thinking. its simple enough to do! but the best way is to just let them change it on their own.
East7 Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 Someone who is happily involved in a new relationship would put "in couple" status easily or not put anything at all. Keeping "single" status clearly means "I'm available" or it is a willing negligence.. If I was dating someone who put her status "single" that would upset me a lot. You should ask him what that "single" status means ?
Intergalactic Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 my last relationship lasted 3 years and my status stayed as single the whole time. but then, i only add people who i actually know, and most knew i was in a relationship. my boyfriend's status also said single. i don't really think it matters.... it's just facebook.
tigressA Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I think it matters, to an extent. I like to be listed as "In a relationship" when I am, or not displaying "Single" as a status, because I am happy and proud of being with my partner and my status (or lack of one) is a way of showing that. We post pictures of ourselves and our adventures; we broadcast our interests, hobbies, education, career; we share the most exciting and the most mundane bits of our lives, many times our address and contact information--and all for hundreds of people (or many more, depending on your privacy settings ) to see. Why NOT your relationship status?
Cee Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 My FB status is in a relationship and my boyfriend's is listed as single. At first, I was confused about it, but then I learned he rarely logs onto Facebook. I posted a cute photo of him and he made it his profile pic. I thought that was a nice thing and it's official enough for me. I have forgotten about the whole thing and don't care anymore. I think it's fine if you ask him to change his status. He already told you he'd be okay with that. It doesn't have to be a big discussion, just a casual conversation.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I think it matters, to an extent. I like to be listed as "In a relationship" when I am, or not displaying "Single" as a status, because I am happy and proud of being with my partner and my status (or lack of one) is a way of showing that. We post pictures of ourselves and our adventures; we broadcast our interests, hobbies, education, career; we share the most exciting and the most mundane bits of our lives, many times our address and contact information--and all for hundreds of people (or many more, depending on your privacy settings ) to see. Why NOT your relationship status? Well I don't know. I guess some people like to keep people guessing or just don't think that part of their life is anyone's business. You may be aware that I have been dealing with a woman who bailed on a date, and resechduled that date, claiming she was going to spend that particular night with her 'boyfriend'. This person shares all of those things on her FB, but no pictures of her with any boyfriend, no messages from any particular man which have a romantic boyfriendish tone, and no relationship status set.
SingVoice Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 If you guys are exclusive....then just change your relationship status. And you can link him...if he doesn't accept...well that's a problem. Sometimes it's just people don't put that much stock into facebook. Otherwise...he might just be waiting for YOU to do it.
mtber75 Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 My FB status is in a relationship and my boyfriend's is listed as single. At first, I was confused about it, but then I learned he rarely logs onto Facebook. I posted a cute photo of him and he made it his profile pic. I thought that was a nice thing and it's official enough for me. I have forgotten about the whole thing and don't care anymore. I think it's fine if you ask him to change his status. He already told you he'd be okay with that. It doesn't have to be a big discussion, just a casual conversation. Yeah right he rarely logs onto FB? If he has a page, you can be sure that he checks it! He just might be a lurker or just too old (don't know how to use it properly). I wondered that too. Some of my friends' relationship statues reflects that they are in a relationship but their partners have no indications?
oaks Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 OP: if it matters to you then it matters. If someone (perhaps a friend, or perhaps a cute girl who was thinking about flirting with him) asked him in a bar if he was single what would he say, and what would you want him to say? If he's in a relationship with you and you don't want him to be saying that he's single (not just on social networking sites, but anywhere) then you should make this clear to him and ask him to do something about it. I know some people don't like to broadcast that they are 'in a relationship' on Facebook, which is fair enough, but there is an option of hiding relationship status which works in that situation better than leaving it as 'single'.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 my last bf changed his status on fb from single a month after he had asked me to be exclusive. funny enough.. he changed it the night i hung out with all of his friends and there were photos of us together posted on his wall.. who knows what guys are thinking. its simple enough to do! but the best way is to just let them change it on their own. This goes to show that most men are possessive. A public disclosure of relationship status is his way of say " she's mine, now back off".
callingyouuu Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 Absolutely, unequivocally no; it doesn't and shouldn't matter. That said, I would try to get him on changing that "single" to in a relationship, if he's that keen on keeping his friends updated. Posting your relationship status at all is one thing, but posting false relationship status is a bit disrespectful to your SO.
dy.lanea Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I don't think it matters to much. I'm married to a friend of mine according to my status.
yah Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 Not to me. When SO and I met we both had nothing for our statuses and have left it that way. If he had listed himself as 'single' I would be OK if he left it that way too. I have no pictures of him on my page either. It would only be a problem for me if he never introduced me to his friends or family.
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