Lilmisus Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 In one of my college courses that I'm in, we were randomly assigned groups and were made to talk about relationships and do relationship assessment tests with random volunteers. One of my group members was apparently a friend of my older brother, and realized that we were related soon after seeing my name. My brother is extremely popular, and it's not uncommon in the least to run into someone who knows him and "loves him" since he's just an extremely lovable guy. This guy was no different and said that him and my brother were best friends and worked together (which would also mean he knows my mom who works next door to them). As soon as I heard that he knew my brother I was turned off. My entire family is popular and well-loved, and every other day I hear "aren't you Bob's daughter?" or "Do you know Artie? Are you related? I love that guy!" I grew up living in my entire family's shadow, and having everyone compare me to someone in my family that they knew, and it's caused me to want nothing more than just to start new. You know, run away and create a name for myself, and meet people who don't know anyone in my family. If they do meet them..they'll be Lilmisus' brother/father, not vice versa. It's one of the reasons that I was attracted to my (soon to be ex) boyfriend in the first place. He was a fresh slate, and I felt like I could be anyone I wanted to be with him and not be compared to anyone else. Sure, soon after he realized who my dad was when he finally met him, and said that he's heard tons of great things about him. He even told a few friends "Did you know who Lilmisus' dad is??" and told them the story. It still felt great to know he didn't compare me to him when we first started dating, and hopefully doesn't still. But the thing is, this guy is extremely cute. Not my type in the least, though, since I'm not the type to go after the extremely smart guys, or those who are too tall, too dark or too handsome (reminds me too much of my brothers). But, I just felt extremely attracted to him, and loved it when he kept saying my name or tried talking to me. Maybe it was because he was trying to be nice since I'm his best friend's sister and I misinterpreted his nice comments as flirty, who knows? I just know that I've been somewhat dressing up for my class since then, and it's been nice to turn his head a couple times and getting him to talk to me. I still don't know how I'd feel about going out with him (if he'd ever ask, which I doubt, since you know, he's my brother's BFF and all). Because regardless of if he does, I still would hate to be cast in my brother's shadow and feel like I'm constantly being compared to him (which is how I feel now). But it's opened up a door to thinking and wondering if I ever could date one of his friends, or anyone who knew a family member for that matter. Would any of y'all date someone who was close to a sibling?
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