loveforever Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 My ex-husband (long story in signature) and I are still living together with our children.... After the finalized divorce papers came to the house he told me that he does love me, he doesn't want me to move out and we should see what the next couple of weeks/months bring (reconciliation ?!?!) He still doesn't kiss me, doesn't hug me, doesn't tell me he loves me.... We get along well....except when we have occasional arguments.....mostly me not keeping my mouth shut .... Anyway.....I am a little confused about his behavior.... Maybe you can clue me in a bit.... Situation 1) I came home with son (4), dog and ex sitting on the couch watching TV....I give son a kiss and dog starts getting all in my face....I said "What are you doing ?!?!" and ex answers "I'm texting the guy who's supposed to come tomorrow to fix the garage"....um...I was actually talking to the dog..... Question: Why does he feel the need to tell me who he's texting or even show me the messages even though I told him on several occasions that I don't care anymore who he's in contact with....after all we're divorced.... Situation 2) Tuesday morning (he just got home from work) my little one (almost 4) did not want to come to work with me because he wanted to stay home to play the Wii ....he cried and cried saying "I don't want to go with mommy" over and over again and daddy kept saying "Why don't you want to go with mommy ???".....it started to pi** me off because it was like he wanted him to say "Cause I love daddy more"......so I snapped at him and said "Well it's not because he doesn't love me, he just wants to stay home to play the Wii !!!!!!!" and my ex just looked at me in disbelief and said "Why would you say that ????? I just wanted to hear he wants to play the Wii from him !!!!"......I just huffed at him and left.... Question: Why does he seem to feel upset, disappointed, sad, hurt when I make these kind of comments....he used to get pi**ed about stuff like that....this is so confusing Any idea ????
ladii Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 seems like your the one that is hurt ...upset...disappointed...he just seems having a normal conversation and you go off your head to him... Breathe...relax
Author loveforever Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 seems like your the one that is hurt ...upset...disappointed...he just seems having a normal conversation and you go off your head to him... Breathe...relax Hell yeah, I am !!!!!! He divorced me.....I still love him....yeah I'm hurt etc..... The question is, why he is acting all weird.... During the last 6 months he would always get mad and pi**ed off if I'd say things like that....get all offensive....now he's acting hurt and kinda like "How could you think that bad of me"...... He would try to hide his phone and had it glued to his hip constantly.....now he leaves it out more again and as I said, tells me what he's doing, who he's texting etc.....like he used to before he asked for the divorce..... Just now he stood at the bottom of the stairs and said "I'm leaving (to go to the dentist)...." and paused to wait for me to say something.....I just said "Have fun :p".....and he kinda sighed and left..... If I would have to analyze this behavior I would say "He's getting his feelings back for me".....BUT.....that doesn't go with the no kissing, no hugging, no "I love you".... Or would those things come later ??? I'm confused but I will stick to becoming a bitch again.....("Why men love bitches" and "Why men marry bitches") Tonight is a great opportunity..... I have a staff meeting with dinner at work and after that I will go to the movies and to the gym.....making myself scarce....
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