SilverLining Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I have posted about this guy a couple times...it's my roommate, and we went from a casual dating thing - before we lived together - to getting really close. This relationship isn't going to go anywhere because he has issues, and he's moving out soon so I won't be dealing with it much anymore, so yes this will be resolved, but until then I find it very difficult. The past few days were good. We got along really well and were very close, even being intimate. Today I come home and he tells me that he's breaking his lease early. He just signed a new lease and is moving out. He has this whole...f you attitude to me. I ask him why he is leaving early, and I try to tell him I'm concerned about paying rent because I JUST started a new job this week and I'm still not sure how much I can afford. He tells me I need to move out and find somewhere else to live...I am moving overseas in July, and I'm trying to save money. I say it doesn't make any sense for me to move somewhere else for 2 and a half months, and I'll just look for a roommate. He says it will be a miracle if I find someone to move in, and when I say I'm worried about all of this, he tells me he doesn't care where I go or what happens to me! All this out of nowhere! I know he was medicated and he's not taking the medication anymore, but I think he's bipolar. He has done this more than once...act like he cares, and then out of the blue he treats me terribly. It's been very difficult because I care about him, and he hurts my feelings in this way. I asked him if that is how he really feels, because I need to know where I stand. He says, well maybe he's just mad. So then I tell him he really hurt my feelings, and at this time I'm starting to cry...and he doesn't care. He really, truly, doesn't care at all how much he hurts me, as long as he is taken care of. Speaking of taken care of...the past week he has been sick, and I have been very attentive and caring towards him, so we haven't been fighting or anything. I feel very lonely and upset all the time. I know I probably act like a doormat with him...if we werent living together I would have stopped seeing him long ago, but since we live together it's been different. I feel like after he moves out I'll never see him again, and even though a part of me is happy about not having to deal with this or having my feelings hurt by him, another part is really upset because I think that through this past year, despite everything, I have fallen in love with him.
Movingthrough Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 If he did that out of nowhere, and he is normally on meds but got off recentley, then you are dealing with someone that will be up and down like this. If he actually has certified issues, then when he gets mad this is how it will be. Personally i would cut ties, doesnt seem like he is actually a good friend.
Author SilverLining Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 He didn't get off recently, it was before I knew him that he got off of them. Originally he wanted to be in an exclusive relationship with me and I said no, because he was so moody and doesn't handle his anger well. He constantly takes out his stress on me, which is why I can come home and he will start a fight and say mean things to me without any provocation from me. When I got laid off from my job, he offered to let me stay without my having to pay rent, and it took me a loooong while to find a job. I understand his frustration about that, but while I have been here I pretty much do all the cooking, cleaning, and laundry, besides the fact that we were pretty much dating and was available for intimacy...and financially I wasn't much of a burden because he has a pretty cheap place and he makes almost six figures. It's not like he's pinching every penny because of me. He decided that we weren't going to have a future together, and ever since then he's been terrible to me most of the time, and is in an extreme rush to move out, even though he goes on dates and chats with girls online alll the time when I'm here, which is also pretty painful. I just wish he would stop hurting me. Why can't he be sensitive to the situation? He's getting everything he wants, minus me, but he doesn't even want me anymore!
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