ally21 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 It seems like the relationships around me, and the ones that I get into seem to go rather stale after about two years. It's not that you don't love each other, but us women feel like our men never want to go out or do anything with us, anymore; yet they always want to go out with their friends. Is there something wrong with us? I have never been the clingy/needy type that tells her beau no, he can't go with his friends, or even feels the need to call/text him while he is out. Is this wrong? I just don't understand why he never wants to go out with me, anymore. I know he loves me, and there are no other problems in our relationship. To be honest, it doesn't even bother me he hangs out with his friends, it's simply the fact that he hangs out with them, and does not want to go out with me, anymore. Is this true for all men? Thanks!!
blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 definitely not true of all men. I would say there needs to be a balance between going out with your friends and going out with your girl. I would never go out with my friends and not have something planned to take my girlfriend out somewhere too.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 This is synonymous with someone letting themselves go in a relationship. Two years is a long time for a relationship. When people grows accustomed to something, they tend to take things for granted. Perhaps your exes weren't bad people, but they took your presence for granted when they were with you.
Jynxx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 There just is nothing fun about going out with your girlfriend. When I go out when I'm single with friends it consists of getting extremely wasted, hitting on any random girl that's near enough and getting into retarded situations with buddies as drunk as me all the time. When I go out with my girlfriend it consists of having 5 or less drinks, behaving and seeing random guys hit on her (I'm not a jealous guy at all but it's not fun to watch).
lemonlegs Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 There just is nothing fun about going out with your girlfriend. When I go out when I'm single with friends it consists of getting extremely wasted, hitting on any random girl that's near enough and getting into retarded situations with buddies as drunk as me all the time. When I go out with my girlfriend it consists of having 5 or less drinks, behaving and seeing random guys hit on her (I'm not a jealous guy at all but it's not fun to watch). So, what do you do with your friends when you're not single? Exactly... not so fun now anymore, is it? I go out with my boyfriend and his friends and we get drunk (I can out drink my boyfriend, he usually ends up in the bathroom yacking by the end of the night, and I'm ready for more...), but it sometimes results in us fighting. Why? Because he's an ass when he's drunk sometimes and says rude stuff to me, or I have to deal with his other douche-y friends, or them wanting to go to some meat marker bar that I explicitly say I DON'T WANT to go to right from the beginning. Anyways, my point actually was that me and my boyfriend have had fun nights where it's just us. You can go to a pub or bar, you don't have to go to a club where 99% of the guys there are there solely to get laid.
Author ally21 Posted March 3, 2011 Author Posted March 3, 2011 I appreciate the replies, but I don't feel that they were quite the answer I was hoping for... I just don't understand why guys don't want to go out with their girlfriends after about 2 years. They always want to stay in, unless it is with their boy friends. I remember doing stupid stuff with my boyfriend before we got together, and even during the beginning. Now he wants to go out and do stupid stuff with his friends, and I completely respect that. Just missing when he wanted to do stupid stuff with me, too. I don't understand why that has to change.:)
Movingthrough Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 This is synonymous with someone letting themselves go in a relationship. Im a guy and here is your answer above. Guys are bad at letting it go, we think we have it good so we just leave it, plus when you are living or spending so much normal time with the girl, we tend to think that is enough. Im not saying its right but i have seen this all the time.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 I appreciate the replies, but I don't feel that they were quite the answer I was hoping for... I just don't understand why guys don't want to go out with their girlfriends after about 2 years. They always want to stay in, unless it is with their boy friends. I remember doing stupid stuff with my boyfriend before we got together, and even during the beginning. Now he wants to go out and do stupid stuff with his friends, and I completely respect that. Just missing when he wanted to do stupid stuff with me, too. I don't understand why that has to change.:) Sorry to break it to you, but if he'd rather be with his friends, either he sees you too much in general, or youre just not fun to him. He doesnt miss you when he doesnt have to, if youre there all the time. What you need to do is go get some friends, and go out with them ALOT. Go have fun with them. get out of each others faces. When he sees you dont need him, then he will come around. Thats the only way, because if you nag him about it, you will just send him further away. make yourself more fun and unavailable.
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