hejmandarin Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Hi guys. Just made a user to ask you this.. My boyfriend of 1 year was on a skiing trip, where he kissed someone else. I was on vacation in Africa at the time. My friends, who was also on the trip but didn't know about the kissing, tells me, that they had not been talking at all previously on the trip. They were on a disco one night, where she kissed him, he drunkenly kissed back. That I would have been able to forgive. But. When the whole group went back to the hotel, they were in separate taxas, and that ride lasted for like half an hour. Plenty of time to remember some certain girl he has been seeing for over a year, right? But back at the hotel, they kissed again. He can't remember who started it, but they were in the hallway, and then briefly in the toilet, and then on the hallway again. They only kissed, and he had his hand under her shirt, but over the bra.. And she says (she didn't know he had a grilfriend, so I don't blame her) that they kissed a lot, and he did nothing to stop it. I'm not mad at her. It's all his fault. Eventually they went to bed - separately, not together. He told me right away. He was coming to my house later, when I got home (and he was), and I could see from my window, that he was sitting in his car crying for twenty minutes before coming into my house. The whole time he was here, he also cried. He's so sorry - but he should be! He has been completely honest constantly, and that's a good thing. He's really not the type to pull something like this, and he says he truly loves me (but does he, when he kisses someone else?) I want to be with him, but I feel so humiliated. It is so disrespectful of him, and I don't know what to do. Anyone has experiences or advices to help me? I would appreciate it. A lot. Thank you
Lilmisus Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I've never been in this situation before, but my friend has. Except, her boyfriend and one of her best friends were the ones who were drunk and making out at a party. It was hard but she forgave her and she gave him one more chance and that was like 3-4 years ago and they're still together and happy. Of course she wont let them around each other any more (understandably). Others haven't had nearly as great of happy endings when the same exact thing has happened to them. Some think that their boyfriend would never do it again because they said they wouldn't..but they end up doing it time and time again. So it really depends on how much you feel you can trust him. If you don't think he'll do this ever again and you really want to be with him tell him he has one more shot, but if he screws it up than that's it and you'll be over. But if the trust is gone, then the relationship is gone..and say goodbye to him.
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