SteveC80 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I too am one of those, possibly shallow, women who prefer extra height. Not sure I can totally articulate, so I think there's something just inherently instinctual about it for me. For one I am 5'9" and wearing flats all the time is NO FUN AT ALL for tall girls like me. It's really a requirement. Like someone said earlier, having a taller man makes you feel more feminine--no easy task when you are 6'0" in heels. You also feel safe and protected with a taller man. I am dating someone now who, even in my four-inchers is still towering over me. I cannot describe my lust level over this. It's like height is an affirmative action plan for men...20 extra points just for this. I'm so sorry this is so shallow, but so glad I'm anonymous too. I also have put this--minus the heels part--in an online profile. I once had a guy outright lie about his height on his profile. He claimed to be 5'11" which I would be satisfied with. I wore flats on the first date and I was still a good inch or two taller than he. That really angered me. Why lie about it? If it's not your issue, then it's not your issue, but if a woman states it's a big deal to her, don't question it. Just respect it and move along if you don't meet her wishes. It probably is her loss, but there are far more people out there to meet than to get hung up on this one issue. You dont have to explain yourself 90% of women feel this way..Even ones who accept short guys dont feel the same lust they do for tall men.. Being a tall mans like winning the lotto..
SunshineD Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 You dont have to explain yourself 90% of women feel this way..Even ones who accept short guys dont feel the same lust they do for tall men.. Being a tall mans like winning the lotto.. Totally. All my much shorter girlfriends feel the same way.
PJKino Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Im gonna vomit this threads turned into tall guys patting themselves on the back and women agreeing tall guys are hot short guys are not As a short (5'8) guy ill do what ive aways done and not bother women by hitting on them
Author irc333 Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 Yeah, but you're 5'9", which is tall for a woman anyhow. If 12" heels existed, some women that are only 5'0", would say, "He needs to be taller than me in heels, because I at least wear 12" heels, and that puts me at 6 feet tall, so thus my man must be at least that height" LOL I too am one of those, possibly shallow, women who prefer extra height. Not sure I can totally articulate, so I think there's something just inherently instinctual about it for me. For one I am 5'9" and wearing flats all the time is NO FUN AT ALL for tall girls like me. It's really a requirement. Like someone said earlier, having a taller man makes you feel more feminine--no easy task when you are 6'0" in heels. You also feel safe and protected with a taller man. I am dating someone now who, even in my four-inchers is still towering over me. I cannot describe my lust level over this. It's like height is an affirmative action plan for men...20 extra points just for this. I'm so sorry this is so shallow, but so glad I'm anonymous too. I also have put this--minus the heels part--in an online profile. I once had a guy outright lie about his height on his profile. He claimed to be 5'11" which I would be satisfied with. I wore flats on the first date and I was still a good inch or two taller than he. That really angered me. Why lie about it? If it's not your issue, then it's not your issue, but if a woman states it's a big deal to her, don't question it. Just respect it and move along if you don't meet her wishes. It probably is her loss, but there are far more people out there to meet than to get hung up on this one issue.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Yeah, but you're 5'9", which is tall for a woman anyhow. If 12" heels existed, some women that are only 5'0", would say, "He needs to be taller than me in heels, because I at least wear 12" heels, and that puts me at 6 feet tall, so thus my man must be at least that height" LOL Perfect solution- date shorter women with fetish for flats. Problem solved.
Phateless Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 irc333 - Man to man - do you want perspective from members or do you want to argue with us because you're frustrated? Seriously... Women factor in their heels because it's all about the FEELING and the experience. They want to FEEL beautiful and glamorous and feminine next to us and some women are very self-conscious about being taller than their guy, even with heels. It's not because she thinks you're too short - it's because she probably feels kinda manly towering over you. Make sense? The point is you should just chill out. If you're interested, message her and ignore her requirements. She likes you or she doesn't. Beyond that just grow a pair, quit whining and continue your search.
Eeyore79 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Im gonna vomit this threads turned into tall guys patting themselves on the back and women agreeing tall guys are hot short guys are not I don't think I said that I did however say that if presented with a catalogue of men (e.g. an online dating site) I would filter them by the available criteria such as height, whereas in person I'm more likely to be influenced by other criteria which couldn't be conveyed via a website.
Phateless Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 If it's that big a deal just wear fancy boots with a bit of a heel when you meet her. It's just her wish list.
Pyro Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 As a short (5'8) guy ill do what ive aways done and not bother women by hitting on them FTR I am the same height as you. You will find that plenty of women out there are ok with you being 5'8. You will also find ones who are not ok with it as well.
PJKino Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 FTR I am the same height as you. You will find that plenty of women out there are ok with you being 5'8. You will also find ones who are not ok with it as well. plenty? lol look at this tread women are drooling over tall guys
alethean Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Im gonna vomit this threads turned into tall guys patting themselves on the back and women agreeing tall guys are hot short guys are not As a short (5'8) guy ill do what ive aways done and not bother women by hitting on them I'm sorry. If it makes you feel any better I've never really been into this tall guy thing myself. I am aware that there are lots who are though. I have a friend who is only 5'2" and she doesn't date short men. But "short" to her means below 6'2"...smh. I've only dated a few guys but none of them were above 5'8" or 9". I'm 5'4".
Eddie Edirol Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Its completely shallow and superficial to have physical preferences in a partner, but its not wrong. Women on this board will type that they dont want to think their shallow for their own vanity, but sometimes you cant help what youre attracted to. Im superficial as a mo-fo, and I own it. I found a way around all this height BS. The woman Im dating is my height, and taller in heels, but when she dresses up, I know the game to talk to make her feel exceptionally beautiful, to make up for my height. She talks about how I make her feel when she dresses up, job done! (assuming Im taking her word as truth and not blowing smoke up my ass)
Pyro Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 plenty? lol look at this tread women are drooling over tall guys and that is how many women compared to the number that are out there? You can't let what you read on here influence your perception of how the majority are out there. Thats what makes people hateful and bitter. Again, you and I are the same height and I did just fine in the dating world. You can do it too.
Content Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 im short and never had a problem,plus dont think these are all hot women putting down short guys probably far from it
LittleTiger Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 " Men 5'10" and taller are preferred because when I put on my 3- 4 inch heels - I am 5'10- 5'11"" It's not a preference actually. It's a requirement....a preference is something a person can compromise on. Actually she said it's a preference - men 5'10" and taller are preferred - that's a preference. How do you know she isn't willing to compromise if you haven't even contacted her? Instead you just jump to the conclusion that she's shallow! My Dad was only 5'7" and he married a woman of 5'4" who looked like Ingrid Bergman! You are what you are - love yourself for it and you'll find someone who feels the same.
blackmagik Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 She did say that she preferred a man to be taller than her in heels. This is because women like to feel protected. Most women feel that if a man is taller and has a stronger stature than her that he will be able to adequately protect her. This is where the height card comes in.
tigressA Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Height doesn't make a difference when you are across a table or in bed looking in each other's eyes. Amen! I'm all about the shorter guys. I have dated a handful of tall ones and while it is nice to still feel 'feminine and dainty' next to them in heels (I'm 5'7" and am 5'10"-5'11" in heels) there's something more to be said for being able to see eye-to-eye with my partner while barefoot. I don't buy into the 'protection' crap. I prefer being of a more equal height and build to my partner. I can fit into my BF's shirts!
elaina Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 You're very good at stating the obvious, but it goes beyond the obvious and gets down to the core of how shallow this person is. Esp, if you're adding on a clothing accessory. It's not a preference actually. It's a requirement....a preference is something a person can compromise on. It's an unrealistic and obviously shallow expectation. I don't think it's a shallow or unrealistic expectation at all. Why? Because there are guys who are taller than women with heels on. Men have preferences too, and height is just one of the main preferences that many women have when "choosing" a guy. Most men have preferences of weight and of a woman's figure and so on when "choosing" too, yes? The only real difference I see is that women can work out and transform their figures by taking care of themselves, and men can do nothing about their height. There are thousands of awesome men who aren't as tall as trees, but unfortunately, on dating sites this ability to pick and choose without getting to know the jewel the person makes it difficult for women to emphasize that, same as there are thousands of awesome women who are not superstar models who are passed over by guys who pick and choose based on the women's body, and not her mind and heart. Most people nowadays who do the online dating thing have so many choices that they strive for what appeals to them physically and then hope the "beautiful" or "tall" people are awesome on the inside as well as the outside. That's one of the problems with online dating. But, it's not shallow. It is natural. If there were no online dating but rather you got to know women in your community, how it was done long time ago than neither you nor her would be so choosy, but would rather fall in love based on the appealing traits of each other, and not think about what the other person doesn't have (height, perfect body,...) In this present online dating environment, however, being picky about height and weight is natural.
Engadget Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 She did say that she preferred a man to be taller than her in heels. This is because women like to feel protected. Most women feel that if a man is taller and has a stronger stature than her that he will be able to adequately protect her. This is where the height card comes in. Which is silly because height doesnt make someone a good protector. Tall women are almost never attractive to me anyway.
elaina Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 (edited) Which is silly because height doesnt make someone a good protector. Good point. I think it's fascinating for some women though to be "overshadowed" by a really tall man. It's hard to explain. For me, I am 5'4'', and I think 5'11" is the "perfect" height for a guy, but the guy I'm interested in is 6'1''. I don't hold him responsible for his height though. He can't do anything about it. If he were shorter than me, I would feel uncomfortable (just being honest) and yes I do like for the guy to be taller than me when I'm wearing high heels too, but to me that is not shallow.If he were 5'7'' or 5'8'', that'd be no problem... my high heels are under 2 inches! The guy I'm interested in prefers women who are fit and toned, which sort of intimidates me a little bit because I know me working out is necessary for this relationship to work, I don't consider him shallow. Rather, it flatters me that he's interested in me! (He's big into being fit and is into extreme sports, which fascinates me.) So again, the only difference I see is that women can do something about many preferences men have, and men can't really do anything about their height. However, they can definitely do something about their attitudes. There are many men who are under 5'11 who make being in their presence a magical and wonderful experience. Guys who are short should not be discouraged, but instead work at showing they are awesome guys whose height becomes unnoticed by the power of their personality and other attributes that are WAY more important than height. Edited March 2, 2011 by elaina
Woggle Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 The best solution is not to date glamour queens. They are shallow and move in a shallow world and date men just as shallow as they are. Just leave them alone. Try and date tomboys who are not obsessed with feeling girly.
SunshineD Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Im gonna vomit this threads turned into tall guys patting themselves on the back and women agreeing tall guys are hot short guys are not As a short (5'8) guy ill do what ive aways done and not bother women by hitting on them Sorry if it looks that way. I will say I was once approached by a man who was much shorter than I am. His boldness and confidence were very attractive, I was stunned. But not enough to change my preferences. I only claim to speak for myself tho. Yeah, but you're 5'9", which is tall for a woman anyhow. If 12" heels existed, some women that are only 5'0", would say, "He needs to be taller than me in heels, because I at least wear 12" heels, and that puts me at 6 feet tall, so thus my man must be at least that height" LOL LOL. I know it seems silly. I'm almost convinced this is hard-wired in our DNA, Check out the research on mate selection and height. Better to just find your match than rail against it. You know somewhere on the planet is a dwarf of a man and an Amazon of a woman, who are just getting on with life and not getting hung up on this stuff.
SteveC80 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 The best solution is not to date glamour queens. They are shallow and move in a shallow world and date men just as shallow as they are. Just leave them alone. Try and date tomboys who are not obsessed with feeling girly. I agree short guys need to hit on more plain less attractive women
PJKino Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I agree short guys need to hit on more plain less attractive women Youre a douchebag but since women are goofy and height is magical to them you probably get away with
Woggle Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I agree short guys need to hit on more plain less attractive women Glamour queens are not always more attractive. Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian probably have height fetishes and neither one is that attractive to me.
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