jsgirl Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 (edited) My ex came back two weeks ago now saying he wanted a second chance and I jumped for it.. we had been broken up three months at that point after a 1 year relationship and I just wasn't moving on how I had hoped to.. he"s excuse was that the distance and he"s work and study load were too full on for us to work any more.. Any way he re initiated contact and then asked if I thought we could have another go at things as he was settled in at school and work and wanted us to be together.. I told him that at the end of our relationship was pretty rough on me.. the way he dumped me was very cruel.. he just went NC and then went through a stage of sending me abusive texts and threats saying I was the one at fault for the break up before admitting that it was hes feelings not my actions.. Anyway I tell him I am open to trying but we both need to make an effort this time and he agrees.. I tell him I need him to be more emotionally available and he says he needs me to be more open to "playing" (sexually via cam as we are LDR because of Uni) as he has needs.. i agree. So two weeks in the only time he actually really has time to message me is when he wants to "play" and if we are having a conversation its always brought back to "play" I tell him I am wanting more talk time.. he won't add me to FB as he says it causes fights and he isnt ready for that level of commitment. Yet we are "exclusive" in hes words... ?? I dont understand how we he isnt ready for a social network commitment but he expects a sexual one? I am trying to not be the needy G/F here but this guy seems to be using me for sex and occasionally for a chat.. I feel cheated and torn because I dont know how to bring it up with him.. if i even try to he disappears on me and doesnt reply or will change the topic. How do I confront him with how I feel with out being labelled insecure or needy or psycho. He says he is happier this time around as I seem more laid back?? I feel conflicted. Edited March 2, 2011 by jsgirl
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