Author purple_cloud Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Turns out I was right... He just texted today to cancel tomorrow's date with a lame reason and no offer to re-schedule. We should all follow our instincts - when something doesn't add up there is a good reason for it. At least I can move on now with no regrets.
Author purple_cloud Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 His excuse was that his car is not working. BTW he lives few mins from the train station that gets him to the city. I am pretty pissed that he went on and on about honesty earlier this week and he is blatantly lying now. I couldn't help sending him a text "Gee, that's a pretty poor excuse - so much for your honesty speech". No response. I have noticed that when guys are done with you, they have no decency to even bother with offering you an explanation. You get a very lame excuse and they drop off the face of the earth Sometimes, all you have to go on is a general feeling of vagueness, contradictions and unreliability....and your gut telling you "there is something wrong here!"
Imajerk17 Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 (edited) His excuse was that his car is not working. BTW he lives few mins from the train station that gets him to the city. I am pretty pissed that he went on and on about honesty earlier this week and he is blatantly lying now. I couldn't help sending him a text "Gee, that's a pretty poor excuse - so much for your honesty speech". No response. I have noticed that when guys are done with you, they have no decency to even bother with offering you an explanation. You get a very lame excuse and they drop off the face of the earth Sometimes, all you have to go on is a general feeling of vagueness, contradictions and unreliability....and your gut telling you "there is something wrong here!" Yeah it is. If it really were about his car not working, he could have asked you to drive, suggested something that doesn't involve a car, ect. His excuse was almost an insult. Sorry to hear. Edited March 4, 2011 by Imajerk17
Author purple_cloud Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Yeah it is. If it really were about his car not working, he could have asked you to drive, suggested something that doesn't involve a car, ect. His excuse was almost an insult. Sorry to hear. Exactly. Thank you. So much for over-reacting, not giving people benefit of the doubt etc. I deleted his number.
SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Well, that reply about a lame excuse isn't exactly going to help,you know? But I do understand sometimes I want to send out that message as well :-) Sorry you got canceled on
Author purple_cloud Posted March 4, 2011 Author Posted March 4, 2011 Well, that reply about a lame excuse isn't exactly going to help,you know? But I do understand sometimes I want to send out that message as well :-) Sorry you got canceled on I only did that because I know that he is lying and I am done with him. I am also sick of people BS-ing me. I turned down 2 other offers for Sat night earlier today I was sure that we had plans because he called and confirmed yesterday, down to the place where we are going and what time we are meeting up. Then last night I left that flirty comment on his FB that he deleted and today he cancels. My guess is that his preferred choice (girl#1 that he is juggling) came through. Who knows, maybe she even saw my FB comment and decided to pick up her game. I can't tell you how sick I am of dating. I would really like to skip all that just be in a relationship. I am sick and tired of people that have no manners and respect for others.
SmileFace Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I can't tell you how sick I am of dating. I would really like to skip all that just be in a relationship. I am sick and tired of people that have no manners and respect for others. The story of my life... sigh What a horrid way to start the year.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Yes, you are over reacting. What a drama over a guy who you barely know.
lululucy Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Yeeeah. I've deleted comments from guys that I've just started dating off my FB too. I have family and work contacts on there and I don't want another person's wall post to colour how they see me. If they're offended by that, I've written them off as being nuts. As for the car thing.. I don't know, I think that's a valid excuse if you live far enough away that the next option was taking the train. Why should he have to take a train back in the middle of the night? I personally can't see it the black and white way you seem to be.
Star_Bright Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 Yeeeah. I've deleted comments from guys that I've just started dating off my FB too. I have family and work contacts on there and I don't want another person's wall post to colour how they see me. If they're offended by that, I've written them off as being nuts. As for the car thing.. I don't know, I think that's a valid excuse if you live far enough away that the next option was taking the train. Why should he have to take a train back in the middle of the night? I personally can't see it the black and white way you seem to be. Agreed. In the furture I wouldn't post comments on a guy's FB that you just started dating; it can come across as desperate. And if they delete it, don't take it personally -- I only keep very "appropriate" and non-personal stuff, including comments, on my FB because I have older family members, work colleagues, and clients on there, none of whom I want to keep informed about my dating life or personal whereabouts. If a guy posts something about what we did last night and I delete it, it doesn't mean I have no interest in the guy (or else he wouldn't be my FB friend), it more likely means, "I don't want the whole world to know exactly where I was/ what I was doing/ who I was dating last night." I think you take things really personally and you invest a lot of yourself into someone before you even know them. I am just trying to help because I feel like this is going to keep happening to you if you don't try to change a little bit. Just tell yourself you're amazing and if a guy's not into you, there are a bazillion others just like him out there. Why get so into ONE guy and care so much about what he does and doesn't do???
xpaperxcutx Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 How about in the future, don't add people you barely know onto your FB? I would imagine a little privacy about your daily life is more important than the number count of your friends. ( PS. I know there is no such thing about privacy when it comes to FB, but it helps to have a little boundary about who you want knowing about your personal life).
Fondue Posted March 4, 2011 Posted March 4, 2011 I read this entire thread and I have to say one thing, you over-dramatize everything. Good god, woman. Calm the hell down! Yah, it sucks that he may have not been all that invested into you after ONLY A FEW dates. Yah, he might have been "juggling" women (but really, many men/women do this until they get into an exclusive relationship). And yah, you absolutely tried too hard. Just gotta chill out once in a while. Sending nasty texts, leaving dirty comments, etc. That's way too much for a guy you barely know. Hell, I would have deleted your comment too if it was at all racy (but to be honest, I have my wall turned off for everyone, so no one can comment ). But regardless, I think for the future, just try and be less "psycho" about these things. You're only hurting yourself. It is pretty much self sabotage. If there was one way to lose a guy's interest and force yourself to lose interest in a guy quickly, then you should follow the steps you outlined in this thread. Sorry if I sounded harsh. I meant it in the most helpful manner. Goodluck to you in the future .
Author purple_cloud Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 I currently have few other guys interested in me in real life (not from online). The prob is, I am still hung up on this guy. He never actually told me that it's over. I am considering making a last ditch effort, apologizing for my nasty text and the drama and just honestly telling him that I want to keep seeing him. Should I try or just let it go?
Author purple_cloud Posted March 5, 2011 Author Posted March 5, 2011 Anyone else? Should I try or just move on?
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