Telaroca Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Hi,i joined this site because of my problem. I have been working with my boyfriend for almost a year but he did not ask me out until 4 months ago. Long before we started dating, i knew already that he has a one year old baby. He was never married to his baby moms,though. As far as i know, they were having problems even before i came into the picture. My boyfriend moved back to his parents house while his baby and babymoms live in his house...he said he just could not take it anymore so he decided to leave. Last january,his baby moms discovered through his phone that he was going out with me..(coz he goes to his house to take care of the baby so probably baby moms sneaked on his phone)..so she started harassing me,telling me that she will kill me.she really went crazy,she punch my boyfriend,taking out knives on him,etc...she even called our workplace and told our coworkers that we were sleeping together. This february,my bf broke up with me saying that he is doing this to protect me..that he is going to fix everything up first...but he also told me that he doesnt know when it will be fix and he doesnt want me to wait for him coz it might take a month,a year or who knows. he will calm down baby moms first because he wants everything to be at peace because he doesnt wanna lose the baby also if things did not go smoothly.so basically,he is trying to point out to his babymoms that he is there for the baby and nothing more.there is no love between them anymore...(plus baby moms mother is dying so shes going through a lot).. Valentines day,he gave me flowers and he was crying because he missed me and he really loves me that the days we were apart just killed him..but he told me that he is not trying to be with me yet because he doesnt know if his babymoms will flip out again..we are still not official something like that..but after valentines,he always picks me up for work,like the way we used to do..i understand him because he really loves his daughter,plus the fact that he is going to lose his house he really invested on. I am so confused because he told me he loves me and he would not be going through this **** if it were not for me but he keeps adding that he doesnt want me to wait for him either. I mean,is he just saying that to show me he is not selfish?or is he saying that for me to leave him and it would be easier for him so he is not the one who left me but i did.. If you love someone,would you want them to see with someone else when you know you have sacrificed a lot for that person?
Wilie Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 And your falling for his line? Why is it you dont believe what you know to be true? Think about it... Cheers , Will
Author Telaroca Posted March 2, 2011 Author Posted March 2, 2011 And your falling for his line? Why is it you dont believe what you know to be true? Think about it... Cheers , Will Maybe i am scared of the truth..i just dont want to accept it.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Not worth the baby mama drama. What's stopping from you from pursuing the other 80 million men out there who has their sh-t together?
Eeyore79 Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 I agree with xpaperxcutx - that sort of drama simply isn't worth the hassle. If he dated that sort of psycho and had a child with her, it says a lot about his own lack of common sense too, especially when you also consider that he was irresponsible enough to get her pregnant and didn't have the decency to marry her afterwards. He's already abandoned one woman with a child, so what makes you think he'd stick around if you had one? There are any number of decent men you could date who don't come with this sort of hassle - be glad you only wasted four months and get out while you can.
dispatch3d Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 If she directly threatens your life you can charge her. If she says through someone else she will you cannot. It sounds like the first. I would either get out of their lives, charge her, or both (but mostly likely option 1).
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