Post a letter, facebook message, text or wait till i bump into her?

[roman_pavluchenko]

Been 28 days since break-up, and about 10 days full NC. In this 10 days i saw her once, but i quickly walked off and she walked behind me for quite a while, dont know if she called out or anything because i had my ipod in, but we didn't speak, we didn't even look at eachother. Our break-up was the kind you see where the guy (me) doesn't do anything to upset the girl(her) doesn't cheat, doesn't swear at her, compliments her and simply cares about her and eventually, after 2 months in this case, she ends it on the basis that im a really nice person but she doesn't feel the same. I went back a few days later and poured my heart out but she said she couldn't go back.

 

I've been reading about things quite a lot on here and noticed that going NC and improving yourself is the best way to get your ex back. Sure, ive started going to the gym as im pretty skinny, ive started playing sport again and i've started uni. However, if by getting buff and she notices this and comes back to me, it will be for all the wrong reason, lust, not love. She MAY have completely moved on, last week i was told she was having trouble getting me out of her head, she MAY have still had feelings for me despite the fact she said she didn't, she just didn't think it was going anywhere and was pressured by her friend to end it, because she started having second thoughts.

 

So like i said, its been a month, 10 days strict no contact, she hasn't tried to text me, call me, email me or whatever (i deleted her off facebook) Im thinking of sending her some form of communication saying something along the lines of;

'I've given you lots of space to show you that i didn't depend on you as much as you thought i did and im not going to wait around forever so is there any chance you want to get back together' If she says no, ill shake her hand, tell her to have a good life and move on. Based on the title, how should i do this? ( a written letter sounds kind of odd to me)

edit : im gonna add that we were eachothers first partners, maybe she wants to meet new guys, i don't think for sex though because the most we did was make-out for like 3 seconds, i was willing to go longer but she would pull back.

Edited March 2, 2011 by roman_pavluchenko

[fresh8]

Do not say you are waiting for her and asking if there's any chance to be together because in your circumstances, it makes you seem really desperate.

 

However, if you think that she might still have a thing for you - maybe text and ask to catch up or something. If she doesn't respond then her loss.