appygrrl927 Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 I need someones help. I have been having a "fling" with an ex of mine for about 7 to 8 years, it has been just sex and hanging out both while we've been in relationships and not in relationships. Has anyone else been through something like this? I need some advice I stayed away from him for 6 months and have just recently started going around him again. The first time that we saw one another after our 6 month break he sayed that maybe we should take things slow and see about dating again. We hang out at least once a week and talk on the phone pretty much daily even if it's just for a couple of minutes. But this has been going on for so long as us just being friends and screwing every time we are around one another I don't know what to do. Should I just take things slow and see how it goes? Or should I have a very frank descussion with him? I am afraid to have a frank descussion with him though for fear that I will lose someone who happens to be my best friend. Please post a new message to let me know what to do. Thanks so much for your help
tattoomytoe Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 i would just see how things progress, or try to get a feel for his intentions...then go from there... but he's got it pretty good, as do you..a friend to hang with and sleep with when you need, but nothing committed.
appygrrl927 Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 I have tried to feel his intentions but he is so fickle one minute it's one thing and then it's something else the next. Yes we do have it pretty good but this no commitment thing is kind of scary if he finds someone else and then decides that our "good" thing is over? I think that I am in love with him what do you think?
tattoomytoe Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 is it him you love, or the thought of not having to search around? i cannot know if you love him.
appygrrl927 Posted April 1, 2004 Posted April 1, 2004 I know that deep down I do love him I am just afraid of what might happen to my friendship if I try to take it to another level. He is a wonderful amn and I know that if I could get him to see me as long term relationship material instead of just a friend for him to fall back on. I have talked to him a little bit on the subject and he is just as afraid to take it to another level as I am. He is worried about damaging our friendship amd us never talking again. Well,thats all fine and dandy but we have had sex multiple times and that is usually the biggest destroyer of friends that are doing that sort of thing. can someone please help if you read this. Thanks appygrrl.
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