loves Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I was with this guy for 6 years, we were madly in love .. I moved 5 hours away from him and we barely seen eachother 4 years into our relationship .. September 2010 we officially ended it but yet 2 months later we continue talking through email & he had a girlfriend the whole time while still talking to me .. He was telling me how she is boring and how all girls are boring and none are like me & how he wants to have kids with me and get married & how when he's married he will still think of me .. He told me he thinks of be all the time & how it's even harder knowing how i'm a virgin (keeping it until marriage ) .. He also asked me to just see him and all that .. called me and told me he loved me about 10 times before hanging up .. I knew about her but she didn't know anything about me .. yesterday i messaged her and told her everything about what he has been saying to me and how he still keeps in contact with me .. He must have covered his act good considering i didn't get a reply .. He called me after that and i hung up on him & then i wrote him an email and he didn't reply back .. Any ideas of why guys do this? .. Or any similar stories/ situations .. I really do miss him .. i've been with him since i was 16 and i'm now 22 .. Does he care for this girl or just because she's there and im not? .. Will he ever talk to me again ? - i told him a friendship is fine and that i would just want that to begin with .. it's like he can't be friends with me or his feelings will come back? .. i'm very hurt .. i feel like i dont wanna do anything besides cry but im a strong person
alethean Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Knowing his drill, you should now stay far, faraway from him. I mean if he really cared about you more than he did the gf, he would have left her and got back with you, distance nonwithstanding. He doesn't sound like a real winner, honestly.
magic8ball Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 You the ego massage, she the d*ck massage, she closer. Magic8ball says all signs point to NO!
Eddie Edirol Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 The reason he is with her is because he cares for her much more, expecially since she has sex with him and she is closer. Since you are a virgin, you are a burden. To a guy you are only an emotional burden without any of the sexual payoff. Since you did the smart thing and didnt have sex with this guy who didnt care for you anyway, he needed to get a new gf. He tells you what you need to hear to keep you wanting him, its easy since youre a virgin. Everything he is telling you from the i love yous, to talking about how boring his gf is, is a lie. You let him stroke your ego to keep you waiting for hijm and it has worked. he doesnt care about you as much as you care for him. he is not talking to you now because you have screwed his game up and probably his relationship with this woman. I dont think he will be contacting you because he will be highly upset, and since he doesnt care for you, he wont want to talk to you. He has to get a new gf now. If you had any dignity you would cut him off for good.
Destiny Rose Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 He is telling you he wants to marry you because he wants to get you in bed. He may have feelings for you but then again maybe he's just playing you. I'm thinking the latter is the case if he hasn't responded to you since you told the girlfriend. I'm in exactly the same situation right now. My ex is "sexting" me and he has a new gf. So I wasn't good enough to remain his gf but he wants me as his little tart on the side now? Uh uh.. I don't think so. I know you miss him but he's not being fair to you. Cut all ties.
race_engine Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 loser. sorry to break it to you, but that's what he is. as a 22 yr old guy myself, i know what guys mean when they say certain things. i'd never do that to a girl i truly cared about, why would ANYONE say "i love you" constantly yet still have another girlfriend on the side if they truly loved you? that isn't real love. as others before me have said, he just wants the other girl for sex and he wants to still have you on back up though, possibly for the future when he realizes he wants to settle down and have a nice girl who is still a virgin. you do NOT want a man like that, unless you want to have deep-rooted problems that will last for years. i'd say cut your losses (i know it will be hard since you loved him for 6 years but you can do it) and move on. you'll find someone far better, who wants to be with you no matter how far away you are and won't bull**** you with stories of his undying love while he's balls deep inside another woman. sorry to sound harsh, but it's true. it doesn't seem fair to you, so forget about him.
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