loves Posted March 1, 2011 Posted March 1, 2011 I was with this guy for 6 years, we were madly in love .. I moved 5 hours away from him and we barely seen eachother 4 years into our relationship .. September 2010 we officially ended it but yet 2 months later we continue talking through email & he had a girlfriend the whole time while still talking to me .. He was telling me how she is boring and how all girls are boring and none are like me & how he wants to have kids with me and get married & how when he's married he will still think of me .. He told me he thinks of be all the time & how it's even harder knowing how i'm a virgin (keeping it until marriage ) .. He also asked me to just see him and all that .. called me and told me he loved me about 10 times before hanging up .. I knew about her but she didn't know anything about me .. yesterday i messaged her and told her everything about what he has been saying to me and how he still keeps in contact with me .. He must have covered his act good considering i didn't get a reply .. He called me after that and i hung up on him & then i wrote him an email and he didn't reply back .. Any ideas of why guys do this? .. Or any similar stories/ situations .. I really do miss him .. i've been with him since i was 16 and i'm now 22 .. Does he care for this girl or just because she's there and im not? .. Will he ever talk to me again ? - i told him a friendship is fine and that i would just want that to begin with .. it's like he can't be friends with me or his feelings will come back? .. i'm very hurt .. i feel like i dont wanna do anything besides cry but im a strong person
Kismetly Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Hi Loves Sorry you're going through a tough time. I'm a bit confused about what you wanted to achieve by writing to his girlfriend. Did you do it because you wanted him to leave you alone? You say you still love him, but when he called you you hung up on him? You need to be clear in your own mind what you want from this fella. Your message will have definately hurt her and him ... ... or did you do it because you thought it might make her dump him and then he'd be available for you? What I've learned is that manipulative behaviour rarely works. It's very risky to take an action - like telling his girlfriend what a cad he is - hoping it will achieve the outcome you want. Truth is it could go either way and there's a good chance he'll just think you are an untrustworthy drama queen and have to work hard to resolve the problems that now exist with his RL girlfriend. Take care. ((hugs)) Kismetly
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