ARUAL Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 MY HUSBAND WORKS WITH ALL MEN AND A COUPLE OF WOMEN, HIS WORK GROUP DOES ALOT OF ACTIVITIES OUTSIDE OF WORK, I.E. CAMPING, PARTIES, ..... THIS ONE WOMEN WHO IS A SUPERVISOR BOTHERS ME SO MUCH, EVERY TIME WE GO ANYWHERE SHE HANGS ALL OVER MY HUSBAND, SHE IS MARRIED AND HER HUSBAND IS ALWAYS THERE BUT SHE HAS TO BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION AND HANGS ALL OVER A SELECT FEW HUSBANDS, I DONT KNOW IF I AM THE ONLY WIFE BOTHERED BY IT BUT I SEEM TO BE THE ONLY ONE UNLESS THE OTHER WIFES ONLY COMPLAIN TO THEIR HUSBANDS. I STARTED SHUNNING HER, I DONT GIVE HER A HUG WHEN I SEE HER AND DONT TALK TO HER UNLESS SHE TALKS TO ME DIRECTLY. AT THE CHRISTMAS PARTY, OF COURSE SHE WAS DRUNK AND GOT REAL CLOSE TO MY FACE AND SAID I KNOW WE HAVE OUR PROBLEMD ( I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT PROBLEMS SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT, NOTHING HAD EVER BEEN SAID BETWEEN US) UNLESS HE SAID SOMETHING TO HER. SHE SAID YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU AND MY HUSBANDS NAME AND I WANT US TO BE FRIENDS. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN IN FIGHTS ABOUT THIS, HE EVEN WANTED TO SPLIT UP IF I COULDN'T GET ALONG WITH HIS FRIENDS, WHICH I GET ALONG WITH ALL OF THEM EXCEPT I DONT LIKE HER, I JUST TOLERATE HER AND DONT START ANYTHING WHEN WE ARE AROUND HER. SO WHAT HE MEANT WAS THAT I AM SUPPOSED TO BE BUDDIES WITH HER, WHY SHOULD I BE TOLD WHO TO LIKE, AND IT IS NOT ONLY HER, I DONT CARE FOR HER HUSBAND EITHER. WELL THE OTHER NIGHT, I REALLY SHUNNED HER SO I THINK SHE TALKED TO THE OTHER GIRL THEY WORK WITH WHOSE BOYFRIEND IS FRIENDS WITH MY HUSBAND, AND SHE STARTS HANGING ALL OVER HIM THE OTHER NIGHT, EVEN TRIED TO GET HIM TO GIVE HER A KISS, MY HUSBAND DIDN'T KISS HER THOUGH. WHEN WE LEFT THIS ONE FUNCTION AND GOT IN THE CAR MY HUSBAND SAYS OH POOR CAROL EVERYONE SHUNNED HER, MEANING THAT I SHUNNED HER. HE SAID WE ALL PLAY GRAB ASS BUT WE DONT SLEEP WITH EACH OTHER. I AM SO SICK OF THE GAMES, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE OTHER GIRL STARTED HANGING ON HIM, THAT IS CATTY GAMES, THE TWO WOMEN ARE BESTFRIENDS. I DONT WANT TO GO TO ANYMORE OF HIS WORK FUNCTIONS I AM TIRED OF HIM HOLDING ALL OF HIS WORKERS FRIENDSHIP SO HIGH TO THE POINT OF ARGUMENTS, I AM TIRED OF THE GAMES. I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND THIS ONLY HAPPENS EVERY ONCE IN AWHILE, WE DONT DO THE FUNCTIONS ALL THE TIME. ANOTHER THING, IF THE WOMEN SEE HIM ON SATURDAY FOR A FUNCTION, WHY DO THEY HAVE TO HUG HIM, THEY SAW HIM FRIDAY AT WORK AND WILL SEE HIM MONDAY MORNING AT WORK. I CAN SEE ME HUGGING THE PEOPLE HE WORKS WITH BECAUSE I DONT SEE THEM BUT MAYBE EVERY OTHER MONTH OR SO. WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS?
tattoomytoe Posted March 29, 2004 Posted March 29, 2004 get over it and get over your jelousy. try and take it as a compliment...he must be a great guy. i would totally hang out at these functions and show them all just how in love you two are.
dixiepix Posted March 31, 2004 Posted March 31, 2004 If his friends are more important than his relationship with his wife and/or family, then he is the one who has problems. I would try to choose the activities we share with these people wisely. I would even go so far as to discuss possible problems that might arise beforehand along with an agreement as to how far out of hand attendees should get before we exit.
Skittles Posted April 3, 2004 Posted April 3, 2004 You really sound upset by the big old caps in your post! I am on the fence on this one...On the one hand, if you can muster some sexy playfullness yourself and have as much gumption as that flirt princess, then you will definitely change the dynamics of that group and might actually start having fun. On the other hand, I have always had a problem with the husband who put his friends, and girlfriends before his wife...like he doesn't care how you feel about chicks draping their behinds all over him...that doesn't really display consideration for your feelings on his part...What to do? Party with folks that are mutually pleasing and leave princess play-paws behind...
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